My H and OP are really involved in a very co-dependent work relationship fantasy. <P>It seems to be starting to bottom out in a negative way. Nothing new here on the home front. H still says "doesn't love me" and is pretty detached from the 2 children.<P>I can't figure out EN's because there is a bizzaar aspect to this affair. THat of having a psychic bond. Like they are doing something special but it is not reality based.<P>Has anyone ever been able to point things out about the relatinship????<P>I guess the OP's H has spoken to my H and my H agreed that he can't help OP with her relationship with her H so I guess he is starting to see the detrimental effects.<P>He seems a little worried about what her H will do. <P>It is such an unhealthy relatioonship and work environment. I am afraid it will get really messy before it ends. I wish I could do something. I am just trying to be strong and supportive, but it is really difficult when I hear some of the stuff going on.<P>Any suggestions??? Or do I just keep my mouth shut??? Should I at least question the intentions so I know what to do with my own family?????

tootrusting,<P> It is really hard to talk and open up your H eyes until the affair hits a point were he is starting to wonder what is what.<P> You need to remember one thing. YOU DIDN'T PUSH HIM INTO THIS. He created this mess if he is have trouble OH WELL. If the OP's H decides to beat him up OH WELL, maybe it will knock some sense into him. It is not easy to be in your position. It was only last November I was in the my first fight in the last 35 years and guess who it was with.<P> It sounds like at this point you should be worried about yourself. Take care of yourself and try not to let this get to you. It sounds like this affair is falling apart. Let him fall on his face and then you can help. P.S. it is hell getting thought this so make the most out of this fall you desire it.<P> I think your day will come.<P>Joe<BR>