On a different post I mentioned that my stbx called and left a msg on my "new" answering machine. It was just about some stuff he bought the girls and wanted to know if I would help them doing the computer stuff....since I have the internet. Well of course I made my msg sound sexy....from what others have told me and also they told me it sounds like I am in control and have confidence.<P>Well when he dropped the girls off today they had Dairy Queen....and guess what...he bought me a hot fudge sundae.<P>Mt first reaction was....what does he want now. But the girls said he talked very nicely about me this weekend. He also was acting somewhat sad.<P>On the msg thing....I have the recording set for 3 minutes and he used the whole time. Said well I will call you later....first it made me break down crying...hearing his voice and all. It sounded just like the man I used to know.....not that angry, mean person he usually is.<P>But like I told Murph.....they just can't leave you alone. I hope hearing my voice made him think of me......because I know hearing his made me think.<P>No...I am not looking too deep into this stuff...wondering what is going down....probably going to hit me with the tax stuff again....or maybe just relieved that I didn't have him thrown in jail for being behind in child support and not paying the utility bill.

Forgot to mention....he even washed the girls clothes before he brought them home. Miracles can happen

Unbelievable!!!!! D was over 2 years ago??? Well, I found out this week that a H that I know is going to move closer to his exwife and daughters after what I believe was an "addiction" (based on her demeanor at the time). It happened 3 years ago. But I heard she moved on and does not want him to move closer.<P>It just goes to show you...... What if he wanted to try to reestablish a relationship??? What would you do|???????<BR>

We aren't divorced yet. But it is going full force. He just keeps on being mean and then this.....he is so weird. This is so weird. I just don't get it.<P>I told Murph on one of his posts that I also dream of him just crawling into my bed one night....holding me and crying and asking me to forgive him. I know..... just a dream.<P>I swear he is bi-polar. His brother is and I know that it runs in the family. He does this stuff to the girls too. Nice one time and just horrible the next. He is so complex.<P>Well enough...I can't, won't and refuse to think of anything good coming out of this. During the summer he would let the girls buy me carnations from the store.....just two or three of them....but he knew how much I loved flowers. It is like he is starting that stuff again.<P>Nancy

Mental<P>What a great post. I'm very happy for you. It not only gives you something to hope and dream about...but it also gives us all hope.<P>My hope and prayers are with you!!!<P>J W

NANCY!,<P>I was the one who was supposed to get the ice cream. Hey, stop stealing my ideas. <P><BR>Hope YOU are doing well.<P>Tim

Tim,<BR>I knew you would be laughing on that one. Of course it really means nothing. He just wants something. But sadly, it is not me.<P>J Willy,<BR>No. there is no hope. We are almost divorced and he is a terribly confusing man. He doesn't want me....just wants me to keep wanting him. He can't stand me not talking to him. Bugs the he!! out of him.<P>Nancy

Nancy,<BR> WHAT?? What did you just say??That you dream of me crawling into your bed with you???I don't know what to say,I'm...I'm flattered!!(oh,or was that your H you were referring to?) --Murph

Okay Murph...you caught me! All this time I have been using this front to get my claws into you...now I am so embarassed.<P>Please don't tell anyone....<P>I'll be keeping a spot warm for you<P>Nancy

Hi Nancy,<P>I've read quite a few of your posts and it is amazing how similar our H's behavior is. I often wonder if my H is bi-polar too. His behavior is so extremely hateful most of the time and then every once in a while he acts like he still cares.<P>My H and I were getting along just fine for about a week. Then, I demanded that he pay the whole amount of child support since he hasn't paid any in 8 months. He got mad at me and then called back later to ask if I wanted to settle out of court. He said if I would settle then he would drop the charges he filed that had me thrown in jail. I've decided that that will have noting to do with whether or not I decide to settle. I am still bitter about beinng thrown in jail, though. <P>I know this really isn't on the subject, but I just had to say how much alike these two men sound. I am glad that your H is being nice. I hope he continues being that way. After all you've been though...just be careful. That's what I have been trying to do too. Take care!<P>Tulip<P>

Tulip,<BR>That is what has me being cautious....everytime he is nice.....does something off the cuff....then he bangs me with a court date.....wanting something I still have....or turns around and does something evil.<P>Sorry you are bitter about the jail thing. I really don't care about mine. It was stupid and he is the one that has to carry the guilt the rest of his life. Yes...I feel so weird being 37 years old and having been arrested.....but really, I know I didn't do anything so wrong. The OW and my H were just really being stupid.<P>This sounds funny....but I don't want him to be nice. Being civil is just fine with me. When he is nice....the stupid part of me gets all emotionally mushy and I want him back. Then I get all frustrated because he doesn't want to come back and then I start feeling bad again.<P>Good luck Tulip. I forgot...what did you get arrested for?<P>Nancy

I was arrested for confronting my H and OW in a parking lot. Nothing bad really. I just caught them together and told my H he was a liar. He pushed and hit me (not hard) and I did the same in defense. He then threw me on the hood of my car. That one caused a bruise on my hip but nothing major. The first person to go down to file a complaint can have the other arrested. No witnesses or anything. Well, of course he had a witness the OW, but not that she is a credible witness or anything These two have gone completely insane and filed warrants against everyone! They've filed warrants on her H too.<P>I've really come to the conclusion my H is trying to make me look bad so he doesn't look so bad for walking out on his family. He even went as far as to tell me that he knows how to manipulate the law to his advantage and will do so if necessary. What a nut!!! <P>Tulip

Oh my...<BR>Are you sure we aren't married to the same person?<P>That is exactly what my stbx is doing....making me look like the bad guy....justification for affair.<P>Also, my stbx does know how to manipulate the law. How he does it I don't know. He layed out a plan...while still here to make me look insane and then just rides on that. He was smooth. I caught on...so did many friends and my family...but those idiots with the court just don't see it. In fact...they probably think I am more mental for even suggesting such.<P>Good luck to both of us.<P>Nancy

Nancy,<P>I am glad to hear of the recent change in his behavior. I have always hoped for the best for you and what turned out to be a horrible situation.<P>Please use caution, I am in the same mode right now. Everytime my H is nice, BOOM, he is up to no good. So please, don't get too confused, or read too much just yet into it, cause there may be a reason. I hate to be the skeptical one, its just my H has a way of wrecking my trust over and over.<P>I am hoping for the best for you, and I hope he is coming to his senses, it would be a miracle.<P>Prayers are with you , Dana<BR>

Good Morning. Maybe we are married to the same guy! LOL They were at least made from the same mold. <P>The way these men can manipulate is beyond my comprehension. I could never do the things my H has done to someone. As far as the courts go, I agree that they can't see through their crap. I try to look at it like this: No matter what happens, we will come out better, stronger people. I think if our husbands sincerely come to their senses that they will understand us being a little afraid of jumping right back in head first. Good Luck! <P>Oh, when is your divorce final? Mine is suppose to be final at the end of April.<P>Tulip

Our pre-trial conference is scheduled for April 10th. I feel so yuk inside. Just seeing that in writing hurts me so much.<P>Nancy<P>The custody evaluator office left a msg today. Seems the report is done and they want to know if I want to come pick it up. Like I need to see anymore bad stuff wrote about me.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by MENTAL:<BR><B>We aren't divorced yet. But it is going full force. He just keeps on being mean and then this.....he is so weird. This is so weird. I just don't get it.<P>I told Murph on one of his posts that I also dream of him just crawling into my bed one night....holding me and crying and asking me to forgive him. I know..... just a dream.<P>I swear he is bi-polar. His brother is and I know that it runs in the family. He does this stuff to the girls too. Nice one time and just horrible the next. He is so complex.<P>Well enough...I can't, won't and refuse to think of anything good coming out of this. During the summer he would let the girls buy me carnations from the store.....just two or three of them....but he knew how much I loved flowers. It is like he is starting that stuff again.<P>Nancy</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I think you are probably right. I feel my W is bipolar. I hate this disorder. I kinda wish she would go see the psychologist. She has only seen him once which he had her go see a psychiatrist to be prescribed ADs because she had been suicidal after she broke it off with OM because he cheated on her. She was crushed because she thought she was the only one he was cheating on his W with. How stupid can you be. Yes, I get a little upset when she is still pining over him and he has treated her like crap. <P>I attribute it to the bipolar. I know it is a chemical imbalnce that keeps her from thinking straight. She doesn't listen to her body as I do mine. I am aware of the chemical chanes that occur in mine. I feel like I am going thru a second puberty thing ( I feel some of the feelings I felt when I went thru puberty.) I hope it is not like a male menopause. LOL<P><P>------------------<BR><B><I>God Bless,<BR>Rob</I></B><BR> regilmor@swbell.net