Just a brief word of encouragement and hope.<BR>DO NOT GIVE UP. <P>Just 8 months ago my h. was determined that we should divorce because of his affair--which had been over for a few months.<P>This summer we will renew our vows on a family cruise (privately, without our kids knowledge).<P>miracles do happen...don't give up if you still have any strength left to work on your relationship.<P> [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] <BR>lizzie, her husband's 'Pearl of Great Price'<P>

HOORAY !!!!!!!! This is wonderful ! Thank God !<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>

"THANK GOD"<P>Believe me, Deb, I have been...every moment!<P>much love to all here,<P>lizzie/POGP

UP FOR THOSE 'OLDIES' THAT HAVE PRAYED FOR US FOR A YEAR -<P>LIZPEARL

Liz<BR>I am so happy for you!!!!!!!!<BR>What a wonderful way to go forward.<BR>You will let us know all about it won't you? At least a little.

Pearl,<BR>How wonderful! God bless you all the days of your life.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10

May God Bless the both of you !!!<P>I'm so very happy for you !!!<P>You mentioned that the affair was over for two months and he still wanted a Divorce... Is that right....<P>How did you do it???<P>I need all tips and advice..... thatnks...s

How I did it:<P>1) I prayed like crazy,and Lor and I started the Women's Bible Study here.<P>2) I went to my Dr. for STD screening and anti-deps, as well as a counseling referral.<P>3) my HMO covered my visits, because I had a diagnosis of "Acute Panic Attacks" (NO ****, I was panicky!)<P>4) He moved out and I left him alone as he stayed with our good friend, a pastor that I kept in touch with daily<P>5) I let him come here to tuck boys in each night and get his mail, and eat with us if he wanted to...<P>6) After two weeks, I emailed him the following message:<P>Isaiah 43:19 "Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, now it shall spring forth, shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert."<P>He called and asked me out to dinner...came home here that night, and never left again.<P>7) Sex -- lots of willingness to both talk about it and make time for it, and to gently renew our physical relationship a step at a time.<P>8) He started coming to the counselor when I was able to convince him to see her alone once. (He thought that as MY counselor, she would treat him like scum, she didn't!)<P>we still<P>9)see the counselor once a month, <P>10)date every week, and <P>11)deal with problems the same day they happen, and<P>12) I STILL pray like crazy!<P>hope this helps, <P>lizzie/pearl of great price