HI All,<BR> Love comes from the most unexpected places....<P> I was getting ready to post a REALLY sad post about my W and I's conversation yesterday. She pretty much tore my heart out of my chest!! You know, the matter of fact talk of divorce and we can't fix this, it's over and all the other crap we have to put up with in Plan "A"?<P> I called my D and wished her her FIRST happy Mother's day. I asked where she was going and she told me to her MIL's, that was good to hear. Not to W's to have OM "Lurking"....<P> She asked how I was and I told her alright I guess. I didn't want to (And never really do) tell her how her mother just TORE ANOTHER HUGE AND FUNNY SHAPED CHUNK OUT OF MY HEART!! I told her I loved her and to kiss my grandson for me and headed for my Brother's to see my Mother.<P> I was REALLY REALLY down just because of the conversation and because I had to pick out a MD card from ME only instead of US....<P> Well, I picked up my mother and when we got to my B's house MY WONDERFUL DAUGHTER was there with her new family!!!! I almost cried I was so shocked and HAPPY !! I had the BIGGEST smile I've had on this face in 7 months!! I couldn't wipe it off!!!<P> I guess she decided to surprise my Mother and I and bring my PERFECT (sorry ) grandson down an hour away!! My SIL just had a baby too and because of the "Situation" I figured D wouldn't have too much to do with "my" family anymore. <P> She's actually my Step-Daughter" but I raised her as my own and although we NEVER EVER have used that term, you can see why I may think that she would kind of "fade" out of MY families functions. <P> Her father has never really been in her life. I have been her "Father" for 15 years and her Paternal father left when she was 3 years old. I took over when she was only 9 years old.<P><BR> It just made me SOOOO HAPPY that she is sending a message to MY family that no matter WHAT her mother ends up doing, she still loves me and them!! THAT, I'm sure is sooo important to them because they know of my pain and one of the things that hurts them (for me) is that AFTER I helped W raise her children, (I truly love them so it was no biggy for me!!), she could run off with OM. <BR> I don't think they could ever really understand why I love them so much since they are not "Mine". I just always have. <P> I believe God put us ALL together and blessed us with a TRUE family love. It is really pretty rare and now with my W gone (for good?) it's a little uncomfortable. W's side has obviously had to exclude me from things now! <P> BUT MY DAUGHTER, my BEAUTIFUL (photo available upon request ), INTELLIGENT, LOVING, CARING SUPER GRANDSON MAKING DAUGHTER, she's still Daddy's little girl!! <P> And my W says what we do doesn't affect the kids now because they are older and married!! HA!~! D won't go over W's BECAUSE of OM!! W can't grasp that just yet!! [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/wink.gif[/img]<P> I just LOVE HER SOO MUCH TONIGHT (D of course)!! My heart is FULL and I'm STILL smiling!! [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img]<BR>THANKS AND PRAISE TO GOD!! Best MD I EVER had!! [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img]<P> LOve comes when you LEAST expect it!! <P>FRANK<BR><P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>

<P>Love you, Frank.<P>lori

Frank,<P>I'm so happy for you... <P>You have been blessed!<P>My oldest son too... is my stepson(I never used that term until I had to write junk up for the divorce.) Raised him basically from 3+ years old.<P>He too loves me as his "only" father...<BR>...and now... mother too.<P>All three of my kids went over to my W's (their mom's)... and what did they do...<BR>played games on the computer... and played video games almost the whole day! The OM's kids weren't there to entertain my kids yesterday...<BR>...so they were on their own... <P>Their lives are so active...<BR>...why couldn't she even talk to them about any of it with them?<P>I know my W cares about the kids...<BR>...but it's not being expressed by her like she used to... <P>Thank God I have them...<BR>see them everyday...<BR>talk to them...<BR>care for them...<P>I really don't know what I would do without them... <BR>I too am blessed... <P> <P>Jim

What a wonderful surprise. You are so blessed to have such loving children!

OK....I thought maybe I was going to be able to put my "kleenex" away for good....and then I read your post and out it comes. <P>But for a wonderful reason!<P>How great...how wonderful....what a way to fill your heart with joy.<P>Wishing you the best.<P>Nancy

Hi Lori,<BR> Wasn't it GREAT!! I love you too!!<P>HI Jim,<BR> YOU SAID:<BR> "Their lives are so active...<BR>...why couldn't she even talk to them about any of it with them?"<BR> Yes, it totally AMAZES me how rapped up in themselves they are ALL the time!! WE ARE blessed with Wonderful children! Keep giving and getting love from those kids. YOU and THEY deserve it! Your a special man Jim. All the best...<P>NoTrust,<BR> Thanks, yes I am SOOO lucky to have them. Step-son 28 too (I HATE using that label!!) WhenEVER he sees me he hugs me and kisses me on the cheek. NO MATTER WHO is around. He's an x marine and has done it in front of THEM too!! GREAT KID!!<P> Nancy,<BR> I'm praying for your situation SOO hard!! You deserve to have the kids (AND WILL!!) I cried finally (with joy) right after I posted and thanked God over and over! I ACTUALLY went to sleep with a smile on my face for the FIRST time in 8 MONTHS!! God bless her...<P> Little update:<BR> D called me today and when I called her back she was on the other line. I could tell by the tone of her voice she was talking to my W. <BR> When she got back on with me she was upset and she (Kind of to her self) said "I can't tell my Mother ANYTHING!!" "All she does is talk bad about EVERYONE" " She has such a BIG mouth!" She was probably talking bad about my Sister and Brother because she THINKS, they are talking bad about HER. They have more class than to bring it up to my D really!<BR> <BR> The kids are SOOOO embarrassed by all this. AGAIN. This happened with their paternal father but they were too young to understand then but have put it together of course since. When my W doesn't feel loved and that the realtionship is over, she finds an "escape" option. I didn't have time to fill herr needs because of work AND starting a business, she felt unloved, she BAILS OUT FIRST!!<BR> <BR> W spent Mothers day with OM and not with her kids. I suspect, they spent it with HIS daughter because SHE is about to have a baby too. I'm not sure, she may have worked. I felt bad about it for her though. She CAN'T understand WHY her children treat HER like this!! So sad for her really. The funny thing is, she was FINALLY getting the realtionship she's always wanted with her D when D became pregnant. And then she pulls this and D is just discusted by it all and her again.<BR> LOVE & PRAYERS TO ALL FRANK<P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>

Oh Frank, I am so happy for you. What a wonderful gift that was for you. I can only imagine how full of love your heart was the moment you saw them. <P>Love,<BR>Viki

Hi PH -<P>I am so happy that you were made happy!!! <P>What a great surprise.....<P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba

Ah Frank,<P>Wonderful!!

HI Sheryl,<BR> Thanks, "HOW SWEET IT IS"!!!<BR> LOVE YA FRANK<P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>

Hey.....What are Vicki and me? Chopped liver?<P>(teehee!!)