Good sunday evening everyone,<P>I hope things are as good as possible in your worlds.<P>If your wondering about the change in my attitude it's simple. Genie29 posted on ThisAlex's post today.<BR>It has been the most inspireing advice yet.<P>Leave her alone<BR>Don't discuss or make reference to OB<BR>Don't ask for anything personal {info, intentions, affection...nothing}<P>Be her friend! Kill her with kindness!<P>So I'm doing a 180 in my aproche to saving my marriage. I know she's getting tired of looser dope fiend. So I'll get even with him by giving her only good things say about me. I know this punk and this will absolutly cream his insecurity. He will have only two things he can do,#1 use more dope, he loves his dope, and#2 bad mouth me while he is <BR>F.U.B.A.R! And my beloved will have to defend me. I love it! Ya know what I don't feel sorry for him. I say F him and his home-reckin intentions. I am the bigger man. I will be triumphant in this endevor!<P>I'm pumping myself up a little, this is going to be hard as hell. I will be venting here on a regular basis I'm sure. So bear with me.<P>THANK YOU Genie!!! I have a new found motivation.<P>When I'm around Robin, I'm going to fake it till I make it.<P>I can't wait until that little s!@t implodes!!<P>If anyone has any specifics they can share my ears are open.<P>Thanks,<BR>Bill <P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Good for you! <P>I always like to hear when people have hope!<P>Good luck!<P>------------------<BR>d is for dog<BR>h is for hope<BR>j is for joy, pure joy!<P>

You are right her words inspired me also.<P>I'm with you pal<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>

Yay - brownphd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 <P>I say "go for it!" I know you can do it. I'm pulling for you.<P>Lori

you wrote:<P><<<I can't wait until that little s!@t implodes!!>>><P>ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!<BR>Good for you! thanks for putting a smile on my face! Godspeed to you, WilliamJ!<BR>Deut

Way to go BillJ,<P>Let's get rid of this damned black cloud over the forum. One by one it will disappear.<P>------------------<BR>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic<P><BR>

WilliamJ and eveyone else...<P>You are so welcome and it really has made me very very happy to see that I have helped a little.<P>It takes that time and it will be hard and you will be tested but remember you have to stay focused and have your pity parties elsewhere.<P>I am here for you whenever you need me.<P>I am tickled pink for you, and you are sooooooooooo very welcome, anytime!!!<P>Genie

dhj,<BR>Thanks for the encouragement.<P>Brown,<BR>You too keep it up, NO LBs!!!<P>SxH,<BR>Glad to make you smile.<BR>What is ROTFLMAO?<BR>I am real curios, if you can't put it here email me. <A HREF="http://www.wconklin@carolina.rr.com" TARGET=_blank>www.wconklin@carolina.rr.com</A> <P>MEDICMAN,<BR>I'm doing my best to rid my black cloud. It's lining isn't silver it's gold.<P><BR>I guess my metephore from last night stuck. I do need to change it some. I will now have a clandestine approach. She/they won't even see it coming.<P>Life is looking good again.<P>I know I'll be b!@#$%^g in time.War is hell, it has one objective, to win.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Bill,<P>Congrats!!! Gennie really gave everyone good advise in her reply to my post from last night (I was really pissed). Today I also feel different, read my new post in a few minutes.<P>ThisAlex<P>------------------<BR>If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to.

ROTFLMAO<P>Rolling On the Floor Laughing My A$$ off

WilliamJ,<P>You sound SO strong!!!! I am really pulling for you! Let us know when the explosion occurs LOL!<P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT?<P>That doesn't agree with that "Honesty Policy" thing does it?<P>How can you fake what you don't FEEL????<P>Sorry guys ... I can't fake anything.

Maya,<P>It isn't about faking it. It is about love, if you love someone, don't you wish his happiness (& I am not saying that it is OK to be w/ OW)?<P>It is about calming down and sincerely forgive him; it is about sending him your love. If there is love in you he'll feel it, if there is anger he'll feel it too.<P>Don't fake it, feel it.<P>ThisAlex<P>------------------<BR>If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to.

My refrence to faking it was being angry and hurt. I can't show her that in fear of lovebusting.<P>I love my lovely wife more than any human being on earth .There is nothing fake in my feelings.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

So you're not asking me to fake it if I don't love him and don't wanna be in the marriage, correct?<P>I've had many tell me to fake all that too, that "it will come back." Been faking it for a year now, I'm severly depressed and seeing a counselor. <P>So that's where faking got ME.