Hello,<P>Since my last post where I paged my H and left a sobing voicemail where I LB'd by saying his affair was based on deceit and can't be right, I received an email from H. He has also tried to call me several times this w/e. I'm not picking up. Too hurt and angry.<P>Below is his email, should I contact him, and if so, why?<P>_____________________________________________<BR>Dear Joanne,<P>I'm sorry that you think my e-mail is not secure and that you can't e-mail me any more. Really it is. No one reads my e-mail.<P>You must be really mad because you are not answering your phone either.<P>I should be moving in to my house on Wednesday. I hope we can talk some time.<P>Love<BR>Me

You were talking about going to Plan B. Are you there? If so, I'd say no, don't call him. <P>If you're still in Plan A, Yes, by all means call him. It sounds like he's being reasonable (though I know how short lived that can be) and that he wants to talk.<BR>

Hi,<P>Can you say you were out? So he knows you have a life and are not just waiting around for him to call? <BR>Lora

How's it going? --HBC

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by HurtButCoping:<BR><B>How's it going? --HBC</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Hey HBC,<P>Thanks for asking ... I have not yet talked to H. I did e-mail him and told him that I was not mad, but in pain and hurting still from the latest news (living w/OW).<P>I told him that I know he wants to talk to me and I want to talk to him too, and that I really miss him.<P>H had his counseling session on Monday and I had one yestrday. Counselor says she asked him "why" he's going to counseling, and H did give her an answer but she sd she is not at liberty to tell me, but she did say he is not necessarily going to break things off.<P>We have a joint session on Monday. Pretty nervous about it. I am going to bring up some things I know he will consider confrontational. Our counselor sd he is scared because I haven't been calling him and I'm blowing him away by how calm I've been.<P>How are you doing?<P>Jo

You know, I might just ignore him til the session on Monday...

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by kam6318:<BR><B>You know, I might just ignore him til the session on Monday...</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Kam6318,<P>I think that's what I'm going to do.<P>It's so weird, the last 3 or so days I've been really feeling consistently better. I don't know if it's baecause the Buspar has kicked in (4 weeks bef effective) or if it's because I haven't talked to H.<P>I was just looking around the house yesterday, and although it's very quiet and lonely, the eggshells are gone and I can do anything I want to do. I'm holding my breathe tho, don't know if this mood is a trend or if I will continue to feel this way. I pray so much every night, and amongst my prayers is one where I pray this strength will be there in the morning. So far so good. <P>How are things in Kam6318 land???<P>Jo

Jo-- <P>I'm glad to hear you're doing okay. I think you're doing great, staying so calm and all considering the circumstances! Good luck in your joint session on Monday; I'm really glad your H will go with you. I think I agree with kam--lay low until the session.<P>I'm hanging in there, thanks for asking. I wrote a novel on the board yesterdy, but the short version is that H is having problems caused by XOW at work and he's dealing with his insecurities by finding 'net chicks. Sigh. Maybe one day I can get HIM to go to a joint counseling session!<P>Good luck to you, Jo. Keep up the good work! --HBC