If we are to forgive and reconcile, what factors determine when to end the marriage or when to mend a marriage?<P>I know of a couple who celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary. I know at least 30 of those years were plagued by an affair, yet the wife--dutifully--fixed dinner, ran his bath knowing he was preparing to spend the rest of the evening with this other woman.<P>I never heard them fight. She never raised her voice or appeared affected. I never asked her how she did it. Her husband passed away and it angered me so I couldn't cry because of his demise. I thought "How dare he die."<P>So, how can it be determined whether or not a spouse is being a fool...or whether or not a spouse is being honorable by considering their vows?<P><BR><P>------------------<BR>Love hurts no one.

"For worse" means that you vow to face obstacles together, not to create them or ignore them.<P>"For worse" means "no matter what." But it doesn't mean living a sham. It's like finding an apple with a big worm hole in it You pick it up and eat the side that doesn't have the worm in it. You only settle for half when you deserve a whole. Guess you figure that's all you're gonna get, you gotta suck it up and just forget what you just saw on the other side of the apple. Not healthy for you.<P>Folks that ignore problems are just as guilty as those who create them, and that is a huge matter. Too long to even go into.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Bernzini:<BR><B>"For worse" means that you vow to face obstacles together, not to create them or ignore them.<P>"For worse" means "no matter what." But it doesn't mean living a sham. It's like finding an apple with a big worm hole in it You pick it up and eat the side that doesn't have the worm in it. You only settle for half when you deserve a whole. Guess you figure that's all you're gonna get, you gotta suck it up and just forget what you just saw on the other side of the apple. Not healthy for you.<P>Folks that ignore problems are just as guilty as those who create them, and that is a huge matter. Too long to even go into.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE>No need to go any further...enough said.<P>Thank you for the light . <P><P>------------------<BR>Love hurts no one.