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#39844 12/09/99 11:33 AM
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I just received an assignment to Thule AB in Greenland reporting in July! No family allowed!!!<P>I have seven days to respond. I'm gonna look at gettng out of it somehow.<P>Looks like retirement in seven months. Anyone looking for an electronics technician/manager?<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

#39845 12/09/99 11:37 AM
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I'll go in your place. Of course I have no training ....

#39846 12/09/99 11:40 AM
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And, once again, a new complication.<P>You're in my prayers, Chris.<P>Lori

#39847 12/09/99 11:41 AM
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Greenland. What the heck did you do wrong?<P>I'd hire you in a minute - but, our company is "right sizing". <P>Dang, when it rains it pours doesn't it. <P>SHA

#39848 12/09/99 11:43 AM
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Check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~bhauke/photos/photos.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.pcisys.net/~bhauke/photos/photos.html</A>

#39849 12/09/99 11:43 AM
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Actually Chris if you like the Tennessee area the company I work for is hiring. Praying for you bud.

#39850 12/09/99 11:44 AM
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Hmmmm? Tennessee? I was born in Memphis and it is right next door to Arkansas...

#39851 12/09/99 11:50 AM
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This doesn't have to be bad news. The worst case scenario is that the Air Force won't reconsider and you need to retire. Might I suggest you do just that and move to Minneapolis. Unemployment is low, schools are good and Dr. Harley is nearby. Seriously, Good luck with some tough decisions. I don't have to tell you this but whatever you do, don't let go of the kids. Might I offer this prayer for you today.<P>Prayer of St. Francis<P> Lord, make me an instrument of Your peace, <BR> Where there is hatred, let me sow love, <BR> Where there is injury, pardon, <BR> Where there is despair, hope, <BR> Where there is darkness, light, <BR> Where there is sadness, joy.<BR> <BR> O divine master, grant that I may not <BR> So much seek to be consoled, as to console, <BR> To be understood, as to understand, <BR> To be loved, as to love, <BR> For it is in giving that we receive, <BR> It is in pardoning that we are pardoned, <BR> And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.<P>

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Hi Chris,<P> My H. was AF for 11yrs....SURELY with your situation they wouldn't require this of you....can you talk to a chaplain or someone from the Family Support Services?....keep us posted .....Lu

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Chris,<P>Prayers for you now...<P>Head up... God will be there for you!<P>Jim

#39855 12/09/99 12:38 PM
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Chris,<P>Maybe He is helping you here Chris... the Lord works in mysterious ways, as they say.

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Chris -- No advice, but thoughts and prayers. Keep us informed OK.<P>God Bless

#39857 12/10/99 01:02 AM
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NO, NO, NO!!!!<P>Sorry - but NOOOOOO!!!<P>What is going on with the powers that be lately? Yes, we want this limbo shaken up some...but, dang!! How about some GOOD shaking that would actually HELP our situations!!!!!<P>With your situation - it's out of the question and they should be accepting of that. If not, tell them to come here and we'll straighten them right up about it!!! <P>Heck, they work for us - remember!!!<P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba

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I agree that Family Services may be able to help. The girls need you now more than ever!!! I'll keep you in my prayers. I know He will provide a resolution.

#39859 12/10/99 01:22 AM
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Maya, Not a very good place for someone in your shoes. Plenty of male companionship & nothing to do. In winter, you would be lucky to get outside more than once a week and the base is very small. About four buildings includung living quarters.<P>TCL, I actually grew up in St Paul Park. Lived there for five years. I have actually thought about going back there sometime.<P>I can't accept the assignment for a few reasons. DUH!<P>1. If I go & leave the kids with my SIL, which is my current plan if I have to go somewhere for a short time, then the Wife will most likely snatch 'em up. Besides, I can't leave 'em for an extended period (12 month assignment) so soon after Mom split!<P>2. If the Wife comes back before then, we couldn't actuallt "fix" anything, could we?<P>3. If she doesn't come back before then, I think a divorce would be imminent. (sp?)<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

#39860 12/10/99 01:29 AM
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Well, I believe I could occupy myself with a BB gun ... with all that "male" companionship ... they will be easy targets.<P>Sorry. I know it's serious, Chris.

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Chris,<BR>As always, you and your girls are in my thougths and prayers. Let us know what happens.<BR>B<P><BR>PS - check out <A HREF="http://www.lanl.gov" TARGET=_blank>www.lanl.gov</A> and see if you can get into the job listings. They are always hiring.<P>------------------<BR>My favorite quote....<BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be handeling your problems today. I will not need your help, so sit back and have a good day."<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Butterfly (edited December 09, 1999).]

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Fear not, Chris. Like YY said, this could be a blessing in disguise. Don't despair.

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Chris, will say a prayer for you. <P>I do not understand military logic, whatsoever. I do not get it. What happens, does some crazy computer pick names? It sure isn't good timing for a 12 month assignment in Greenland..... Unbelievably crappy assignment and timing. uggh.<P>Maybe retirement would be the way to go right now, your reasoning looks sound. #1 reason right now is that your wife abandoned your daughters, and you cannot allow yourself to do the same thing to them. They are just getting to the point of adjustment. And you've been such a good Mr. Mom. Halloween cookies, costumes, etc. etc.<P>Do what is most important to you, family first.<P>You can always get another job, but getting another family is not so easy.<P>God bless.<BR>TNT

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