Well, H and kids gave me a 50th BD party Saturday night, and H hired a male stripper.<P>HE WAS FINE!!!!!!!!!! :biggrin:<P>LOL!! My daughter said that she had never seen my face so red!! <P>We had a good time. H told me after the stripper left that when we got home he was gonna show me that that "tight-@$$ed lil' SOB" didn't have anything on him! Problem was that H celebrated my birthday more than I did, so I had to drive home. He showed me on Sunday. <P>I'm feeling much better these days. I think my decision to confront Cafe Woman (about remarks she made to me..NOT accusing her of having an affair with H) is a good one. I just have to find the right time, but I've waited this long...I can wait a while longer.<P>You know, I just really don't get it. I can Plan A my butt off without my H even THINKING about meeting my needs, but let me throw a hissy fit, and he starts trying. Is it because my Plan Aing makes my H think he can do anything he wants (other than screwing around) and I will just take it?<P>

You know I feel like while Plan A does wonders it's Plan B that really shakes things up. Whenever I decide that I've had enough and I find the strengh to say goodbye that's when my H seems to take the bigger steps. I'm sure because I see's just how far I've been pushed and just how strong I am. And that scares him that he might actually lose me. I'm sure it's the same with your H.<P>Strengh and confidence does wonders. But you can't fake it. It comes from within and it shines brighter than the sun. Good Luck. And Happy Birthday. <P>------------------<BR>Lost Soulmate<P>"Character is doing what's right, when no one is looking"

Hi Sweetpea,<BR>HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!<BR>Yep, there are many times when others mistake kindness for weakness....including wayward spouses. cl<p>[This message has been edited by cl (edited September 19, 2000).]

Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday sweetie pie.

Thank you all so much for the birthday wishes! I feel pretty good....better than I thought I'd feel at 50! <P>I got so tickled at H last night. He was getting ready to take his shower and came into the kitchen buck naked, turned around, tucked in his rear end, and said, "See, I have a tight lil' butt, too!" Of course, I had to go pat his fanny and "ooh and ah" over it. I told him he had the cutest lil' dimples in his butt, and he just laughed. <P>We are actually starting to have fun with each other again. I've been trying to have new jokes to tell him every few days over the past couple of years, but wasn't getting much response from him...guess that was the "fog", huh? Anyway, lately, he's gotten to where he laughs at my jokes and repeats them to his buddies.<P>Oh, yeah! Another thing...my old boyfriend (the last one before H) whom I haven't seen in nearly 30 years is coming to town (with his wife) and to have supper with us Saturday night. Don't worry; I never really loved this guy, but I don't really know what H thinks about his coming to supper. This guy wrote to me just before I got married to ask me to wait for him and then called me a few months after we were married to see how I was doing and if I was happy. I wasn't home and H answered the phone...got mad and went out and got drunk! I'm not sure if H connects the upcoming visit with that "Yankee-talking SOB" or if he will once he hears this guy talk! <BR>Oh, well, I've invited another couple (also old friends that my H likes) to supper, as well, so we should have a nice visit.