When is the right time to tell my wife that reverting from affair to friends with OM isn't permitted. She is still denying an affair, but her fantasy seems to be starting to crack, so when she realizes (hopefully) that it is ending, when is the right time to introduce some of the concepts learned here?<P>Also, knowing the fantasy is starting to crack, is it advised to inject some more reality into it such as telling her that she doesn't have forever to commit to our marriage, and maybe reminding her that her move out date is coming quickly? That would seem to violate Plan A, but it is tempting.<P>Thanks for any thoughts.<P>PS: She tells OM today that she loves him but knows her days are numbered. Hard to see/hear, but I see cracks...she seems to be more emotionally attached than him...he is just getting a thrill from what I know.