Just found out second time about it. Married for almost four years and about the first three weeks of the marriage he started seeing the other woman. I later discovered that had been seeing her before we got married and then stopped just before we got married. After first discovery I stayed away for about one month a of course he said that he wanted to be with me and that he wanted us to work. Now I find out about three months ago that he has been seeing ow again, from a family member. That he says has been going on for about six months. This time I told him to get out. He is working hard at it, by going to see a counselor and seeing the minister and this time I think that he really means it. The is that these are the same words that he said to me before. He is a wonderful man, he does not have a single mean bone in his body, but I guess that he is also very weak. We do have problems and I guess that his way to handle it was to go talk, etc with the OW. We are trying hard to work at it, but at times fear comes into me as I think 'does he really mean it this time, that he wants it to work?' Ihave such mixed emotions and I do want it to work because I love him and he loves me as well. We have started saying our prayers together in the morning, as I think that is the only one who can help us now. He is so willing to do all these things. I have never had a fight from him to seek a counselor, even before I found out what was going on he said to me "we need to see someone" then I think that we argued about who had the persons number last. I guess that that should have been my hint from him, but I did not take the signal. <BR>Is it possible for our union to work? It's been all aound him, his parents are in this situation, his mom stays in it. Can he break out of the mould, or is it like father like son. Can there be a miracle. <BR>Confused and afraid to be hurt again.
