just a short backgound first....on july 14th my wife of 12yrs called to say she no longer loved me and had moved out.completely caught me off guard. only thing she will tell me is that she could no longer take my short temper.i have never ever abused her in any way. the kicker in all this is that she was 5 mos pregnant when she moved.no one could figure out what was going on. she has since basically set up her a new apt,enrolled our 10 yr old in a new school and basically seems happy. recently got my cell phone call for the 2 months prior to the day she left and sh had called same # 67 times.now that i have read some other posts about warning signs to an affair i should have known. think this a coworker,but waiting on number trace to find out.<BR> my natural inclination at this point is to confront her,but really dont have enough info. guess i can PLAN A for now.<BR> Any advice?<P>

Do Plan A. Remember that Plan A is mostly for and about <B>you</B>, while keeping the door open to her.<P> Get the book, Surviving an Affair from this site...<P>Good luck.<P>

Oh, and if you haven;t already, go read this thread on the ENs' board...esp. the posts by JL and LostVa...LostVa has done all this and come out on the other side, and both always giv great advice...<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum8/HTML/001523.html" TARGET=_blank>www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum8/HTML/001523.html</A> <P>

Welcome <B>maxidog99</B>...<P>I have a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>We've been there before...<BR>You are not alone!<P>Do stick with Plan A...<BR>...and check out... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P> <P>Jim