Dear hearts (this is my personal idea of the most respectful and kind greeting I know which is what I wish to convey),<P>Greeting from the recovery section (where I hang out)! Someone suggested that I post this info here but first must say a few words: Can't begin to express how sorry I am that any one needs to be here. You are embarking on one of the most challenging journeys of your life, especially if you decide to do your best to put your marriages back together. If you have children, a one time deep love for each other, or even if you just want to feel the best about yourself you can, I hope that you will give it your best. These are very hard days. I won't lie, there will be more hard days ahead. The most important advise I can give you is to love yourself in the most healthy way you can figure out right now. Do anything that might help (but nothing that would be self destructive) see if it does, and keep doing it if it helps. Know that what helps today will be different than what may help tomorrow.<P>OK enough of the soap box. What I came to post is:<P>This article was very helpful to me, hope it helps you too: <A HREF="http://www.smartmarriages.com/glass.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.smartmarriages.com/glass.html</A>

Thanks a lot, today!<BR>It is a great article. I printed out and read it. I'm going to bring it to my counselor. Everything makes sense. Understanding the facts and the truth make my head clear, which I really need right now.

You are right - I wish I didn't need to be here. I have a question and I hope I am posting it at the proper place. I had an affair - It has been over for a year. Neither of us has informed our spouse of the affair. In order for recovery - is this something I need to do?<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by today:<BR><B>Dear hearts (this is my personal idea of the most respectful and kind greeting I know which is what I wish to convey),<P>Greeting from the recovery section (where I hang out)! Someone suggested that I post this info here but first must say a few words: Can't begin to express how sorry I am that any one needs to be here. You are embarking on one of the most challenging journeys of your life, especially if you decide to do your best to put your marriages back together. If you have children, a one time deep love for each other, or even if you just want to feel the best about yourself you can, I hope that you will give it your best. These are very hard days. I won't lie, there will be more hard days ahead. The most important advise I can give you is to love yourself in the most healthy way you can figure out right now. Do anything that might help (but nothing that would be self destructive) see if it does, and keep doing it if it helps. Know that what helps today will be different than what may help tomorrow.<P>OK enough of the soap box. What I came to post is:<P>This article was very helpful to me, hope it helps you too: <A HREF="http://www.smartmarriages.com/glass.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.smartmarriages.com/glass.html</A> </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

mar,<P>you should post this as a new topic so that people can respond to you. maybe under general questions. Dr. Harley does advocate telling the truth, by the way.