Thanks for all your inputs.<P>I am worried of being betrayed again.<P>Well he tells me that there is no contact. He is not calling her at all since the day after he told me, and to inform her, no paternity no help, no contact. That's it.<P>We have been communicating, but it like starting a friendship. A lot of our talking is generic. Some, but not enough (I think) is not directed toward the A. It is good we are talking getting to know each other, but it's never directed directly towards the A or how I feel about the A, when I have a bad day. Sometimes I don't want to bring anything up except tell him I'm just having a bad day and he hugs me sometimes and sometimes he walks away, but to talk about it get him upset. I don't know because he can't stand to see the pain he has created or just doesn't want to deal at all because in his eyes it over and I should just get over it.<P>But, yes my fear is that he will take advantage of me again. I, besides him telling me, have to rely he is telling me the truth about her not calling him. I believe if she was so desperate enough to keep strings attach with him by saying he is the father, even after a couple of weeks of no communication (mind you d-day was Oct.21 this year) why wouldn't she call him again.<P>He feels sometime I should just get over it, just forget. No problem for him he has had two year to reconcile with his mistake. I have one month. Why do they think just forget it? or just get over it, like I can just switch them off like a light switch.<P>I will try to tell him gently how I feel without bringing the OW in telling my feelings. But direct it towards how I am feeling about our relationship and him and trust and my insecurities. I hope I can do this calmly without crying outburst. Any suggestions out there.<P>I am so afraid of being betrayed again.<P>