I am about 3 weeks into D Day. My W tells me that her office affair is over. The OM tells me that it is over. I am very suspicious and insecure that there is still some sort of communication. My W insists that this is not the case and that I need to move past this. Things that she has said to me after my discovery like "I feel I deserved this" "I'm just sorry you found out" "If I knew what you really knew about the affair I wouldn't have admitted it" make me very insecure. Things kinds of things as well as the lying have me in total turmoil. But she says I need to move on because nothing is happening. Although she is not sure whether she wants to stay with me. I have really tried to the best of my abilities to be supportive, loving, understanding but at this moment none of these qualities seem to matter.<P>Anyway. She talks about wanting to be independant. Although she doesn't have much of an explanation about what that really means. She says that she needs a day and a night to herself. Go out to a spa, get her haircut, get her nails done, get a massage, etc. And then a night in a hotel to herself where she can smoke, watch TV, get room service. I think that if this is what she needs great... But I am suspicious it is a plot to meet the OM. I mean if she previously had no regrets why wouldn't she do whatever she had to to arrange for a date for herself. She says that she won't do the night out because I don't trust her.<P>I have said "what can you do to help me with this?" She says there is nothing she can do but tell me nothing is going on.<P>Any advice on how I can deal with this? Should I just let her go and hope?
