My unfaithful wife is now spending all of our money and is putting us more in dept every day.I still have no feelings for her and with this recent money situation i'm starting to consider devorce.She will not tell me where this money is going.I really think,in my heart,she does'nt really love me,that she only needs me for my large income.She has not shown or proved to me that she really loves me in any way so i think it's time to go.I want to thank all that has supported me for the last few weeks and that your advice has opened my eyes to reality.I will visit from time to time and maybe give some advice myself.

I know how you feel, but I agree - TIME - is the issue. From what I am told, your feelings and my feelings are natural - some days are good and some days are bad, very bad - some days anger, some days sad, just consistent mood swings, not sure of what to do and when.<P>I can't say my H has done anything to make me believe that he really wants to "work things out", so he say. I believe your wife may be suffering withdrawal from the OM as MB states. I believe that's kinda where my H is, and I can't bear the ideal that he is going through this about some OW.<P>We went to our first marriage counselling together today, and after we left, I was sad. I cried and told him I can't do this. It's been a month, and I can't say I feel a whole lot better, but I am trying to keep a handle on my feelings. It's not easy. It's a lot of work, I'm just not a fighter. I feel what is mine is mine and that's it. But I hear that's not how "life works" some things you must fight for if you really feel they are worth it. Hang in there - give yourself some more time. She maybe spending money as a way of "escaping the guilt or pressure she is under" (women do that sometimes even when they are not in situations like this) but if you feel that this is not the case - Only you can make that ultimate decision and live with it.<P>Prays for you.<BR>

Contact a lawyer immediately in order to protect your assets before it is too late. Good Luck

I was in the same situation....go to the bank and separate your accounts. I was fair and split them down the middle. Do it, before she takes it all and leaves you with nothing.