[img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] We had our first break thru tonight, we actually talked, about our feeling, and all of the bulit up anger. I'll just tee you quick, Im excusated. We figured out why I get mad at him, which he wnted to know. We found out it's like a catch 22 situation. With all that goes on around here with my thing's disappearing, and all. My H never said Im sorry this is happening, but I am on your side. Or, Im trying to figure it out also. Nothing not a word, he won't console me, he never has compastion for my hurt feeling's and the feeling of having been violated. There is no compassion. He just yells at me when I try to talk to him about, what I came across of today. My camasol reappeared, all dirty, with makeup on it. My thong uderwear also have a ton of makeup on them. How does all this makeup get on my under clothes, if another woman were wearing them , then whos putting makeup all over them. So someone else must be wearing them. It's just too much makeup for a woman to wear. This I must keep to myself. H never wanted to talk about it. I found this so strange. So I would be angry when he arrived home. This man knows me, at least he claims to. I asked him if you know me so well then why don't you console me when you hear me crying.I am so confused. What do I say when he denies it. What do we do, do we live togethr or apart. Please help. Goodnight Al

Dear Truthcer,<p>I am sorry you are having to deal with all of this. So things are showing up dirty? Well, give it to your H (no sarcastic remarks [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] ) and tell him whoever dirtied these things to clean them or better yet replace it with new ones. Let him know anyone else using your personal stuff is unacceptable even him! Then just leave it with him. If he denies it, then put up a camera in your room and tape the areas you feel are being affected. They have those little cameras right?
L.