Hi, My name is Nick and i am so happy i found this site. Well here's my story i found out that my wife had an afair that lasted about 9 months. I was able to find out through emails sent from my cousin's husband.well here goes, my wife was interduced to my cousin in Virginia about two years ago. My cousin who has always been involved with horses and works these fox hunts every Sunday. my wife was interduced to a man who also rides in these hunts . Well you know the rest of the storie. This all happend last fall and i did not find out till October. my family and my cousin's family went on vacation in July last year to North Carolinia outerbanks. I could only stay down the first half of the first week. Everything was great we had lots of fun. Well when i returned the last half of the second week things had changed. my wife was distant and kinda cold to me. When we came home things seemed ok until i found out through emails forwarded to me from my cousin's husband. Seems not only did my wife have an afair back in the fall she also met a man at the beach the week i was not there. I found out also through the same emails . When confronted my wife says that this person is only a friend. may i add that this friend lives about eight miles from my cousin's house. I also asked my wife if she has had sex with this person she said no. Anyway since all of this has come out my cousin has written my wife off completly. i think she came to her sences and has also felt used by my wife. my wife still communicates with this man via cell phone. i have asked her to brake all contact and she won't. i told her that she has nospect for me or her children . well my wife feels in all that she has done that she has not hurt me or her children. my wife has little or no remorse for this. my wife also tells me that she feels that our marriage has been bad and we should not have gotten married. There has not been any intimacy in our marriage. So here is where i am at today. after going to a mediator the mediator sugested ( nesting ) this is one parent stays in the house with the kids for a few days then is out and the other parent is in the house. This i'm told is for the children. also along the way i have said some very mean things to my wife and have apologized for saying them. i have also gone to my doctor and have been put on antidepressents. This alone has really helped. please advise me what plan i should follow . I love my wife very much and don't want to lose her .<p>Thank you,<p>Nick C.

Nick,
Welcome to MB. Yes, you have come to the right site learning to save your M. By now probably you lurk around the forum already, please start again with General Welcome link on my signature below. There are other link also that is equally important. Learn as much as you can about MB. That is EN, LB, LB$, plan A/B. Read also SAA. For advice you should contact MB, ask for conseling, they are the profesional. We are her only offer our support and our oppinion. Take what you need and leave the rest behind.<p>Do not move out from your house, stay with your kid 100%. If WW want to join do not push her out, welcome her. Do not talk about A unless she initiated. Most of all do not LB.<p>Do not take your WW's actions or words to heart, she is in the fog right now. Hang on to your dear life since you will have to finish the ride of your life, in emotional roller coaster.<p>Keep posting for updates or for question.