Hello all
You can read my story under "Please Tell Me What To Say!!"
My H is in another country at Vet school with OW. He has cut all communication, except for 2 e-mails and one phone call since D-day 1-1-02.
I am plan Aing from a distance. I wanted to send him a boquet of flowers for V day. They live together so i did not want to send it to their house. I was going to have them delivered to him in class. He will be in class with her and all their friends that know they are having an A. i do not want to LB and have not done so, even on d-day.
My counseler said it would be ok to send flowers as a loving sign i am still here, I love you etc. I sent him some cards and a box of chocolates already.
Should I send them? There have been some signs there is trouble in paradise. Would sending them be a LB? Please let me know what you think.<p>Thanks,
Forgiver

Not knowing what he has said to you in the conversations, it is hard to say.<p>I know I plan to send my WW flowers with a "friendly" card. No mushy stuff but my situation is likely different from yours. I also bought a card but I don't know if I will give it to her. I will have to wait and see.

hey Longing,
Thanks. In his e-mails he just says he is so sorry for doing this to me. He does not know why. He needs time. i am giving him time and space hoping the A dies out naturally. So far so good.
Redhat said not to send them to class it would be a LB. But sending to their house i think would be worse. I'm still not sure what to do. i was hoping for more input. Thanks Again.
Forgiver

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