I am at the end of my rope. One OW called me to tell me about the other OW. I followed him and sure enough found it to be true. I want him out. I know we were having problems but now is just running the streets. Has anyone seen anything like this before? Am I doing the right thing here?

First...I am sorry. Second...ONLY YOU can decide what is right for you. All the advice to do one thing over the other, isn't worth anything if it doesn't fit what you need.<p>Yes, it happens. There are plenty of serial betrayers who are incapable of making a real one on one connection to anyone. It is THEIR Problem. It has NOTHING to do with any lack in you it is all about a lack in who they are. You'll run across those who have one affair after the other, or several during the same timeframe. Either way, there is NOTHING that you can do to change them, it is up to them to discover what they are missing inside of themselves. They are seaching for an outside force to fix whatever is wrong within themselves...they won't find it in the long term. Until they are capable of facing who they are, there is NOTHING YOU can do. This is something that they need to do which is completely un-understandable by those of us who can make a real commitment to one.<p>Good Luck on finding your healing path.

LonelyMoni,<p>You have to decide if you want to save your M, no one can. You could learn MB and read as much as you acn about MB then decide. Follow the General Welcome to learn about EN, LB, LB$, plan A/B. Many has traveled your path and many has save their M and rebuild it w/ a better one. M with love & care, a fullfilling M.<p>My only advice, keep this info to your self and do not mention it to H. Learn MB as much as you can. You can not trust OW intentions on this one. Good thing you get a better picture now. You have better chance to save your M if H w/ multiple OW. It is not a soulmate A however you might deals w/ H's sexual addictions.<p>Keep posting her for support, questions and updates. Read SAA.

I am of the opinion that if you have confronted him about the affair(s) in the past and he STILL won't stop...it's time for you to end your suffering...move on and follow your path to becoming the best person that you can be.
Sincerely,
Spiders