I have been with my husband for 15 years. I have always given everything I had to him and our children. I have often let my needs go. I have allowed him to do what he wanted when he wanted. Never the type to want her man on a leash. I know he has been unfaithful to me,our marriage and family. And I have always taken him back. I know now that it wasn't the smartest thing to do. I always had hope and faith that if you give positive you get positive. I know that you can get taken advantaged of. Like myself.
Not only do I have those gut feeling's that he has cheated on me recently with some other woman, but he is now into porn and nasty movies. We have no sex and when we did I never knew who he was thinking of at the time. So our soul connection has been damaged greatly.
He has promised that there would be no more porn. Especially when he is on the computer and our children are in the same room asleep in those weee hours of the morning.
This would be his 3rd promise that he broke over porn. He should be spending time with his children. But now that his last promise the 3rd was broke I really doubt it if our marriage can stand a chance.
I am hoping that someone could give me some advice on "Honesty".
He never gives me the truth. He never stands up and faces the consequences for the hurt he has caused me. Sometimes I feel more like his mother. I have always give unconditional love and have gotten that mother kiss on the head. I am so tired of the game he is playing. And I want it to stop long enough so he could grow-up. We have a family that needs two grown-ups!!! And I don't need another child but a partner who will be a good example!!!!!!!!!
How do I get him to be honest so I could make a choice that will be positive. If I don't get it I will just throw in the towel!!!
Sometimes I think of all the things he has done to hurt me and find myself wondering why haven't I threw him out long ago. He is not someone I would want my daughter's to meet and bring home. I feel like I also have made some poor choices in a spouse.
All I want is honesty!!!

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Moonlitbabe5:
<strong>I have been with my husband for 15 years. I have always given everything I had to him and our children. I have often let my needs go. I have allowed him to do what he wanted when he wanted. Never the type to want her man on a leash. I know he has been unfaithful to me,our marriage and family. And I have always taken him back. I know now that it wasn't the smartest thing to do. I always had hope and faith that if you give positive you get positive. I know that you can get taken advantaged of. Like myself.
Not only do I have those gut feeling's that he has cheated on me recently with some other woman, but he is now into porn and nasty movies. We have no sex and when we did I never knew who he was thinking of at the time. So our soul connection has been greatly damaged.
He has promised that there would be no more porn. Especially when he is on the computer and our children are in the same room asleep in those weee hours of the morning.
This would be his 3rd promise that he broke over porn. He should be spending time with his children. But now that his last promise the 3rd was broke I really doubt it if our marriage can stand a chance.
I am hoping that someone could give me some advice on "Honesty".
He never gives me the truth. He never stands up and faces the consequences for the hurt he has caused me. Sometimes I feel more like his mother. I have always give unconditional love and have gotten that mother kiss on the head. I am so tired of the game he is playing. And I want it to stop long enough so he could grow-up. We have a family that needs two grown-ups!!! And I don't need another child but a partner who will be a good example!!!!!!!!!
How do I get him to be honest so I could make a choice that will be positive. If I don't get it I will just throw in the towel!!!
Sometimes I think of all the things he has done to hurt me and find myself wondering why haven't I threw him out long ago. He is not someone I would want my daughter's to meet and bring home. I feel like I also have made some poor choices in a spouse.
All I want is honesty!!!</strong><hr></blockquote>

Hi,
two thoughts come to my mind. You need to set boundaries with him. You might benifit from the book love must be tough.
Also if he breaks promises about porn and you dont know who he is thinking of when having sex, it sounds like a sexual addiction. It would go along with multiple affairs also.
Do a web search for sexual addiction. One site has a test to tell if your a sexual addict. I am sorry I dont remember the name.
Good Luck