Okay, I have yet another question. My husband just called me to let me know that he has to go out of town on business tomorrow (only 2 hours away) and that if the project takes too long he may have to stay overnight. I guess he sensed my fear because he asked me if I wanted to go with him but I can't because I have to work. We have been doing pretty well in trying to rebuild but I am so paranoid about this. I'm afraid he might call "her" or maybe even see her instead of going on the trip. Should I feel comforted by the fact that he offered for me to come with him? Am I loosing my mind? Should I actually go with him?<p>Help!!!!

From reading a lot of posts here, I can tell you that your fears are very normal. I would say that his offer for you to go with him IS a good sign. I also think that if you are very nervous about this you should go. You have to weigh the potential damage to your trust in him and your anxiety against missing work. That may be a hard choice because it is apples and oranges. Work seems "real" and these feelings seem vague, but are also very real too. <p>Short of going with him, is there a way you can "check up" on him? A hotel you can call to see if he is where he is? An office you can call to check in with him at a meeting? A cell phone isn't as good for this, since with a cell phone he could be anywhere, and it doesn't prove anything to you about his whereabouts. <p>Can you give him the task of thinking of a way to prove to you he is where he is? Can you present this to him as a reassurance to you by telling him that you just feel uneasy and you want to trust him, but right now you feel insecure and just are uneasy when you can't reach him. He can "help" you by finding a way to keep in contact by calling, or better yet allowing you to call him.<p>If he is remorseful, and if he has nothing to hide, then he may be quite willing to do this for you to prove his trustworthiness.