If it keeps everyone from love-busting at home, then I guess it's okay, but it seems like there's a lot of bashing going on around here this week! Aren't we all here, whether we are the betrayed or the betrayers, trying to learn how to re-build our marriages? Insight from both sides can be very valuable to us all, and shooting down differing opinions without trying to learn from them (IMO) is throwing away an opportunity.

I agree with you whole-heartedly. I feel we can learn from each other. I know that is why I'm here, to learn, listen, vent. But we will not get anywhere if we start acting ugly and saying ugly things to each other.<P>------------------<BR>Give to the world the best you have, and the best will come back to you.<BR>* Viki

Tamis,<BR>You are right on the money. And yes, sometimes I get caught in the heat of the moment and respond with short statements that are often taken as ugly. I try to say them in the most loving manner in which I can though the statement is often not liked regardless of how said.<P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>

I think we all have days when we should probably just keep our mouths shut. I know I have been guilty of this more than once. I too have thought that there seemed to be a lot of mud-slinging lately. From what I have seen it has lead to more than one person leaving this forum.<P>At one point I too was here undere a different name, After only a couple of posts I was attacked much more than I was given any type of support. I left. Later I came back using this name, and have found that with only a couple of individual responses as exceptions, I have found the hope and understanding I had originally been looking for. Maybe when I came here the first time I happened to arrive at a bad time, as seems to be going on now, I don't know.<P>I think we all need to remember that each of us has raw nerves as a result of the things we have gone through. We all came here to this forum because we were hurting and found a place of hope and understanding. With only a couple of obvious exceptions, I don't think anyone who posts here deserves to be attacked. We are all looking for the same things. We need to try and keep this in mind when we respond to others. By the same token, I hope that those who post here will remember that our statements can rub on a raw nerve just as easily as a response.<P>I for one am glad I found this forum. I will continue to read this forum regularly, and will post when I feel the need and reply when I feel I can offer something. I hope this makes sense to everyone.<P>God Bless

I think the "raw nerves" is key. Depending on the individual, our situation, or even our emotional state that day, the raw nerves are more sensitive w/certain issues vs. other issues. <P>PS. This last ten days has been pretty odd. I had a major turn of events myself just the other day. Is there something in the air?

maybe things are getting a little vitriolic. i thought i was just getting more familiar with everyone, unlike when i was new and everything was so foreign<BR>watch the lovebusters, people