Yes!!! Two candle lights and a bottle of Tequila "Don Julio Reposado" (you have to try it… it's very smooth).<P>Hope everything works out fine.<P>Alex<P>------------------<BR>Live and learn

Hi RMA<P>Picked up on your post about the punishment you continue to receive over your EA.<P>I honestly believe my W is using the EA I had to justify in her own mind where she is at just now. I'm sure that it would have been the topic of conversation many times with her OM. I am also sure that he would have had the utmost of sympathy for her over this and blown it out of proportion to make her feel better.<P>There must be a whole heap of guilt in our Ss mind that needs reconciliation in order for them to feel better about themselves. <P>These EAs happened over 2 yrs ago, it was our problem to deal with then, which we did by breaking it off, just as their affairs are there problem now and continue to be our problem also until such time as they agree to total separation from OP.<P>What do you think?<P>Incidently I have emailed you on some latest developments. <P>Regards<BR>Fairenough

Sorry guys, I ave been so busy at work and just got home from the Christmas parties!<P>ThisAlex,<P>OK< so are you sending me a bottle for Christmas...or is this just a tease!?!?!<P>Seriously, thanks for wishing me well...<P>Fairenough,<P>I just checked e-mail and didn't have one from you. Hope it didn't ge tlost - now I am dying to know the next chapter!!!!!<P>I met with my regular counsleore today and brought him up to date. He is worried I have exposed myself to rejection yet ONE MORE TIME. I really feel this will be significant, because if my H can't bring himslef to forgive me sometime soon, I know this will affect how I feel about things. His affair is going on 1 year in Feb. D@mn, that is LONG ENOUGH for anybody to have to pay!!!<P>Will be really buys tomorrow - have to go in to work on my vacation day to finish budgets, but will be on the lookout for your e-mail.<P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

I think you were fantastic. The stuff movies are made out of. Patience, understanding, but persistance and no love busting. WOW. I suspect you made a huge number of positive deposits to his love bank.<BR>That exchange would certainly have me thinking about you all night and week.<P>Sounds like the Right Stuff -- and yes, you can and should be hopeful.