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Help! How can I find his IM log in?
#418026 10/10/02 03:47 PM
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Hello. I'm wondering if you can tell me how I can find out if my husband has secretive log-ins for IM, or other e-mail addresses I don't know about? I've snooped, but I'm not as computer savvy as he is.

He used to spend hours talking to his friends online, no matter how much I complained about his not spending time with me. Now, I have an IM login, and so he doesn't go on there anymore. He knows I can "see" when he's on, so I'm thinking he probably got another log in.

I know I should try to trust him, but I don't. So, basically I want help in trying to find out for myself.

Thanks for any help you can give me.
Re: Help! How can I find his IM log in?
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Check out this thread, particulary the post at the bottom of the page.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=8;t=012617
Re: Help! How can I find his IM log in?
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This topic came up on another Thread, I can't remember if it was Divorcing/Divorced or Emotional Needs, as those are where I hang out the most. Do Google or Yahoo Search and type in Keyboard Tracking for some software tracking programs. However, try to find that Thread, there is lots of good advice on it. If I can find it I'll cut/paste it here.
Good luck, and be careful.
Harold
PS - I am sorry this is happening to you. May God bless you and your Marriage.
Re: Help! How can I find his IM log in?
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Hello DJ Tbird & findingmywayback.

Thank you for your help. I've tried to go to the history, but he wipes it clean, which makes me more suspicious.

The information on the keystroke logger was very helpful, but I may try the spider if that doesn't work.

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