I just called the bank that my ex had when we got back together that was "inactive". Found he's been depositing quite a bit of money in the last 2 weeks.
We had just moved where he's at now...so we didnt have an apt and were staying at a hotel. We're seperated at the moment and he has told me he's sleeping at his night job. Found 9 hotel transactions!! Not to mention 2 transactions that look like ... well he was involved with online dating and it was a flat $19.95/mo and that's the charge on here. Also one for $21.95. Most places that you buy something charge tax. I am waiting patiently til monday to find out details. I'm shaking at how stupid i've been. We are even divorced but i keep going back to him because he swears he wont cheat on me again and he loves me and wants this so much.
Am I being a gullible idiot again????

Well, you may be trying to trust and unworthy of trust person. Please be careful. What he MAY be doing is a reflection ON you but on the type of person he is...but you're the one who could be hurt. jmho

thanks for your reply. since posting this I was able to crack his yahoo password and I went in and found a ton of stuff. He's doing yahoo personals as well as a couple other online dating places. He has tons of smut and has been actively talking to many people. Things are OVER with us. He asked me just lastnight when I'm coming home and was telling me his "heart". HA. lying straight to my face!

Sorry to say this but.......get rid of him. He won't learn until he loses you for good. Why keep hitting your head against the wall?

My wife started doing the internet thing and made me feel terrible and inadequate. Eventually she will grow up....maybe. But I will get on with my life and find a great woman.

Good Luck