i am truely new to e-mail and writing on here i am just a plan old house wife with the greatest kids and a sorry --- for ahusband don't get me wrong i love him with ever breath that i take but i don't no how to let it go and its hurt every day i have no one both parents are long gone been on my owe since i was 13 i am now 36 and sooo lost with out him i am scared he tells me he loves me but i don't feel it i am truly lost inside and out we have been together for 20 years been high school sweet hearts we are was never away from each other but one time he had to go on a business trip for a week when he would call home we both cryed because it hurt us to be away from each other not long after a year this man calls me on the phone and said i think your husband is seeing my wife call this number and you well see i did call her voice mail and i heard him tell her he would meet her at the church in the morning and he loved her he also told our son that it was not about sex that he thougth he loved her how do i go on help me get my family back and stop feeling like i am going crazy i told a friend to have this happen in not human to feel this kind of pain i can't do this much longer

143, welcome to MB--we are sorry for the reasons you are here but it's a great place to find support, ask questions, and sometimes just generally get your feelings out on "paper"--sometimes in the process of typing your hurts and frustrations, revelation comes...and other times, people who have been on either side of your situation come along and help you.

Have you told your H(husband) that you know about him meeting with this woman? Have you let him know it's unacceptable to you and hurtful?

You have some difficult choices to make, starting with do you want your marriage to be restored, to be better? Do you want to forgive your H for cheating? Those are questions you cannot answer easily, we realize that.

Read up on the information for newcomers and know that many are praying for you and be assured more people will be along soon to reply. We might ask questions so you can help us to understand the situation more fully--that's because we care.

I hope things can improve for you soon.

Hugs,