I got the d papers this morning. You were right I have an appt with a lawyer tommorrow. Am freaking out big time. I called her and told her to cut me a check for the taxes. That is the only way I can afford to pay for lawyer. She had the return deposited in her parents checking account. I probably was being very ugly but I told her that was not my problem. I told her if she didn't do it on her own I would get my lawyer to do it for me. Am I being to harsh? I called her saturday night not knowing she had already filed on 2/28 and asked about seeing my dd and asked how the kids did on there bbabll tryouts. She started ripping in to me told me I can't have anything to do with the kids since they were not mine to begin with. She said I can speak to them when I visit DD only. She also informed me that she will call me the day after the baby is born. Meaning that I am not going to be up there period. I told her i would get a lawyer to see about that. I really don't have a clue what to do now. Any suggestions. Am I being to much of a butthole? I really don't know how to react to tyhis.

I'm so sorry! Sometimes, no matter how remorseful a WS is, nothing is going to change the BS decision to move down their healing path alone. While I think she's reacting instead of taking some time to work out what might be truly best, (not saying that this isn't best, just that you're still willing and keeping the family together might have been the best thing for everyone)...it's her right to file if she so chooses.

Yes, get a lawyer, you need to protect your rights where your DD is concerned and the one that is coming. I don't have a clue as to the step children, legally...hopefully you'll have some options there, but only a local lawyer who knows the laws inside and out can give you advice.

I'm not saying in anyway to return her painful actions, but do protect yourself!!!! Do you're best to keep your cool (very important), and listen to what your lawyer advises. Am unclear about the tax refund, but sounds as if she's got your share, you may have to take her to court to get it, if she's being unreasonable.

Hope you kept really good records of the support you've been giving her...if not, be sure to began doing so. Document EVERYTHING! Keep a daily log as to what conversations you have (not admissable in court, but letting your lawyer know what is happening keeps him fully informed), do NOT give her cash of any kind...only checks where you have proof. Document when you've seen the kids. Keep VERY GOOD records!

Good Luck!