My husband is in the millitary and he has been having an affair with other woman in the military and a few civillians. I believe he is willing to work on our marriage, but I don't think he want to let go of his friendships with these other woman. I feel that he will stop for awhile to make things right for me, however later pick up where he left off in his relationships with them.

I want so bad to confront them and tell them its over and to leave my husband alone. I have gone thru so much pain because of the affairs, and I want them to pay the price if they are not willing to take me or my marriage serious. Are there laws against this ? Can I sue them for knowing that my husband was married and its wrong.

I know I shoud be concerned about my husband and I am. However, he will tell them to stop calling and and its over but they later come back, and my husband has a weakness for his "FRIENDS" Some one please, help me here before I do something stupid and I loose my husband.

The military has very strong injunctions against infidelity. I would go to his supervising officer and tell your story. They will put an end to it immediately or he will face discharge.

And yes, you need to do this. NOTHING can be done to restore your marriage until the A is over and there is no future contact with the other woman(en)

C

Ditto what cerri said. He could potentially get court marshalled for adultery. They don't take it lightly. ANd if one of the other women is military, definitely drop their name too.

Imi

<small>[ January 27, 2004, 06:10 PM: Message edited by: Imi_na'auao ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Imi_na'auao:
<strong>Do they frown on it as much if the two are DOD Civilian employees?

Imi</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hmmmmm.... really don't know, but I suspect that the answer to that is yes.

C

Hi Strongwoman,

The military doesn't usually court martial service members for adultery, but it can be career ending. As far as DOD civilians... they are NOT under the UCMJ, but they can get into trouble as well. Just tell their supervisor.

I never told any of the OM's chain of command when we were going through all of our "troubles". I was so ashamed and embarrassed and just wanted to put everything behind us. Telling your H's CO and the OW's supervisors should at least help you enforce NC... and it will most likely get your H or the OW a PCS if they are from the same office.

If you and your H are BOTH committed to rebuilding your M, then you need to find a good pro-marriage MC and start going. Get a copy of Torn Asunder by Dave Carder and see if your H would be willing to read it with you.

Best of Luck...
RIF90