<BR>I don't know if any of you remember by posting of Monday. This is the one where I was sure that my H was continuing to see the OW because her car was parked at his workplace. I WAS RIGHT!!! I caught him last night at her apartment. <BR>Unfortunately, I acted like a totally low class fishwife.....knocked on her door.....confronted her and made myself look stupid. Of course my H just stood there like the ******* he is. I gave the OW what for....she would not respond to me at all.....she spoke not one word.<BR>Back at home my H said that he needs time to get over her.....but I don't know if I really feel like giving him time. <BR>I am feeling so guilty over making a scene at her apartment...it is totally unlike me, but you know what....I owe her nothing! <BR>What do you guys think.....

Well, Stella, we all gotta lovebust at some point and I guess that was as good of a time as any! No physical violence, right? No one taken to the hospital? Not bad.<P>How did H act? Was he angry at you or ashamed of himself. And do you FEEL better?<P>So go on from here. The truth is out and he knows it. Now you've got something to work with.<P>Good luck to you.<P>Lori

Stella,<P>This is <B>that</B> 2 year affair!!!!<BR>And he's been trying to break it off for over <B>a year</B>!!!<P>I really am a big advoate of starting off (after discovery... even now that it is about 12 weeks) with a strong <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<P>But...<P>if you are really starting lose your love for your H... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>... maybe for you... maybe after the holidays???<P>He seems he can't make the break...<BR>You will have your love for him draining away... at a quicker and quicker pace...<P>If you want some more insight into <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>... Post some more! Many are heading down that road soon.. others are there already! <P>Jim<BR>---------------------------------<BR>Where two or more are gathered...

Thanks for the responses. No one went to the hospital and my H was more angry at me than anything. Of course he was busted and he didn't like it. He's used to me being the doormat. Yes I felt good and you are right that more and more of these betrayals just chip away at my heart I am extremely tired of this whole situation. I don't even feel like celebrating Christmas....I contacted my counselor because I really feel that I need medication. She hasn't called me back and I am unsure of how to ask. I feel like they may just think I want drugs and I do!<BR>Are any of you on medication and does it help. I feel as though I am going crazy.

Stella,<BR>Don't be embarrassed. I think about everyone posting here has done what you have. It is perfectly normal.<P>As for the meds, I imangine about everybody here is/was on them at one time or another.<P>These situations are one of the top stress and depression makers so any help you can get in dealing with them is a Godsend..<P>Take care and God Bless!<P>Bob<P>------------------<BR>"You can't always get what you want! But if you try real hard,you might just find, you get what you need!"<BR>Mick Jagger<BR>