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To Worthatry
#425001 03/31/03 06:37 PM
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I read the guidelines you had suggested to someone else, and they seem to make sense.
This is such a hard thing to make sense of.

I read your history, and I'm so sorry for all your pain.
I saw that your XW married the man.
I had hoped that these A's really never went anywhere.

How did you cope with all of this stuff?

I hope you are doing well these days, and have comfort.

Sincerly,
K
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#425002 03/31/03 06:47 PM
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K - thanks for your message and kind words.

How did I cope? This forum and the knowledge I gained here saved my life, I believe. Probably the biggest single thing from this forum was communicating with former WSs. This was all that was necessary to convince me that I was not the crazy one, which was necessary for my sanity. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Usually the As don't get that far. I guess my XW was an extreme case given our loss. I have to assume she's still running from the pain. An interesting statistic quoted by Frank Pittman in his book, Private Lies, is that five years from the onset of an affair, it's more likely that the original partners will be together than it is that the affairees will be together.

Good luck in your quest.

WAT
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#425003 04/02/03 07:39 PM
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Here is another statistic from the Shirley Glass book. 10% of affairs actually end up in marriage........unbelivable. To hear wayward spouses, they will ALL live happy ever after....NOT!
Re: To Worthatry
#425004 04/03/03 10:35 AM
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Thanks Arewehavnfunyet!
I needed to hear that.
What is the book you are referring to?
Seems like I do a lot of reading these days.

Thanks again,
K

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