Hi,

My husband works Mon-Friday in Wisconsin. Every weekend he comes home to PA. For the past 2 years I have suspected him of having an affair with his secretary. I have become a detective. This past week, I found out his voicemail password. His secretary left him a message that she loves him. I played it for him. He became violent and hit me for invading his privacy. He swears on his son's life he is not having an affair. He shows me no love and blames me for accusing him. (13 yrs ago, he had an affair, I found a card from that woman>>>he could not deny it...plus he was fired)

I work fulltime but am ill. I had a stroke 2 yrs ago. I worry how I could support myself if I cannot work. All the what if's paralyze me. I wish my stroke killed me.

Please help me to help myself. I have a 22 yr old son and wonderful little west higland terrior that count on me. I am an emotional mess.

Thank you for reading this.

You did not invade his privacy, you exposed his secret. click onthe link in my signature line, and read all the imbedded links, order the books. You also need to think seriously about getting some help to protect yourself, since he hit you. Neither the affair or him hitting you is your fault!

go to your sons, to a friends, anywhere else that you are safe! hitting to protect his secret is not a good sign as to his willingness to work on marriage, so take care of yourself first!

you must be safe before any work on marriage is attempted!

Protection and professional help, NOW. Prayers are withyou, but get the help right now.