Star*Fish...karena here; using my friend's pc, so I apologize for the name change. On PlanA/Plan B there is a Jion35....so eeerieee how his situation is so much like mine. Redhat has already offered sound advice; I think another person such as yourself would do just as well.

done. So now I know where you're hiding LOL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

You've caught me...hehehehe. Star, I really think this is my H. It is just toooooooo ironic. I however, have had another coworker of mine write under the name Resigned so some of the posts are from her and are authentic. However, it is just a weird feeling that I have that this is my H writing. The misspellings, the wording, the "I want to come home" etc., etc. The only thing that is missing is that I only e-mail him with regard to the children. Last week I fell into the trap, especially since things were going well. Yet, a lightbulb went off in my head and said, "What the hell am I doing? Yes, everything is just fine." In reality, I was thinking, ah, so this is what I will have to be content with, an e-mail relationship with my H. I put the Plan B back into effect, full force. I haven't spoken to him in three days. I told him that I will not be involved with him, even via e-mail, while he was with OW and that I will not disrespect myself any longer. If it is my H, and Star I keep saying this, I believe it truly is.

Star*fish,
Everybody is great, I should have come here a long time ago for help. I have been trying to contact you outside of the forum, not sure how to. Is this the correct way to reply to somebody who has good information. I think that you are right, I should get over the needy thing and find my way no matter what the out come is. I will never unless I try, I would hate to regrets 22 years from now.

jion,

This is the perfect way to contact me. I hope you understand, but I just don't email men from the board....in these states of vulnerability it's just not a good idea.

Don't throw away 22 years and destroy the lives of your children because you're afraid you might get sent back to England. Find something that gives you the freedom to CHOOSE....and you can't do that in your present situation. You want guarantees and there are none....so look logically and make the decisions that make sense. You can't have the comfort of both of these women while you decide which one you want.....and if you try to.....you'll lose everthing. Stand first on your own.....so that you can really see where your heart lies. I have a strong feeling that you miss your wife and feel as though you made a mistake. I think that's why you're here. You've come to a good place. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I hope you're right. You can contact me off board if you ever need to. Let me know if you want my addy or you IM and we can arrange through another poster to get it to ya okay?