Hello again,

Isn't interesting that you said she would feel hurt if you were seeing other people but she continues to date the OM without consequences to her actions. This is an example of a cakewoman.
Again no consequences to her actions equals no motivation to change.

My WW went to meeting with counselor. We went together for the first 20 min, then seperated for the rest of the 2 hrs. WW seemed to really like the counselor. I liked her as well.

When I took WW home she told me some things that made me feel good and that gave me hope. My Wife told me she has felt closer to me in the past few days then she has with OM. She did not want to tell me at first so that she did not get my hopes up. She is still very confused with what she wants to do. WW also told me that OM is acting very needy right know and she cant give him what he needs and it is pushing her away from him. She told me she is really starting to miss me and our family being together.

I dont know what all this really means but it is hopeful. It seems that me backing off and just being there for here is bringing her closer. She has told me she has bean continuing to break plans with OM and he tries to push his presence.

Maybe the Fog is starting to lift.

Brosco I also hope that you are right but I've seen this little scenario too many times to advice you to keep your emotional guard up. So often an undecided WS throws the BS crumbs in the hope of keeping him/her emotionally invested while at the same time doing the same with the OP. Until she ends her affair, sends a NC(no contact) letter to the OM and commits to a marital recovery plan, take everything she tells you with a big grain of salt. After all actions do speak louder than words.

Your right actions speak loeder...She has been wanting to spend a lot more tome with me??? IDont know IM sure you are right. It seems I amy be I a fog of sorts.

I have not made a NC letter yet. My counselor had advised I not do that yet. She wanted to see where my wife was in her posotion first. I will talk to the counselor again on Wen. I do want to send the letter. My WW knows I want to send the letter but does not know If I will. What do I right in a NC letter?