I've posted a few times I have a complicated story my life the soap opera...

my husband of 13yrs has decided to go on living with a 18yr old( from what I heard she is actually 17)I had heard first that she might be preg by my H but she admitted to a friend she wasn't( THANK GOD). what can a man 34 yrs old have in common with a 17 or 18 yr old how can she satisfy him, not that good I guess cause my H admitted to a family member he is also seeing an older women. I know about both of them but I think they don't know about eachother almost positive. what hurts me the most is that my H is already introducing the younger girl to his family he has no shame...
how can I still love this monster... I can't even reconize the person he use to be he is no longer in contact with me for anything not even for my son (who one day was his pride and joy ).
H said that if it meant him having to see me then he didn't care if he saw his son but that he did love him (how selfish is that???) meanwhile he trolleys around with the younger girl and her 1yr old. some days are just unbearable for me who is this person I once knew and still LOVE.....

He is deeply in the fog, and acting like most WS's. Try not to take it personally - he will come out of this. In the meantime you can start in Plan A. Read all about it here.

I have a question how can I go to plan A if I can't even get in touch with him, he refuses to give me his cell # I refuse to call him at work all he does is insult and treat me horribly. so I'm going straight to plan B hoping that may work
when he sees I no longer persue him. my concern if I feel like that will just let him stray more he's started to introduce this OW(a 17 or 18 yr old) to some family members. please help!!!

destiny 2974: I don't have the answer to what if you can't have contact with the WS. I am thinking of the personality type your WS is. There are books about the personality that is the opposite of ours and we gravitate toward that person. Does your WS have the neec to provide security and protection. He can do that with much younger woman. I am just kicking some things out there for you. Having read the personality plus book for couples- I can see how what I thought was weakness is a strentgh in my H. I am not the same personality but rather the exact opposite and the two of us make one. When one doesn't meet the needs of the other, based on their personality they will react in a certain way. Where was this book yrs. ago? Anyway, it has helped shed some light on my situation. Hope you find some answers. Peace.

destiny 2974: I don't have the answer to what if you can't have contact with the WS. I am thinking of the personality type your WS is. There are books about the personality that is the opposite of ours and we gravitate toward that person. Does your WS have the neec to provide security and protection. He can do that with much younger woman. I am just kicking some things out there for you. Having read the personality plus book for couples- I can see how what I thought was weakness is a strentgh in my H. I am not the same personality but rather the exact opposite and the two of us make one. When one doesn't meet the needs of the other, based on their personality they will react in a certain way. Where was this book yrs. ago? Anyway, it has helped shed some light on my situation. Hope you find some answers. Peace.