Hello to all! I've looked around this site and haven't really found anything that helps me out very much. As my displayed name suggests, I am a newly wed. My husband and I were married in July of last year (2003). Two days ago, my husband confessed that he had returned to an old bad habit... Porn. With me watching, he got rid of what he had downloaded on the computer, and he got online to change passwords to random numbers it will not be easy to find again (They were the random numbers from library books that were returned yesterday, and one of them I changed the password on, so he would really have no clue). I have forgiven my husband. It still hurts, but I have forgiven him. Our sex life has not suffered because of the porn, although, I'm afraid the fact that I'm REALLY not a morning person may have contributed to the problem seeing as the times I was sleeping in was the time he was using most of the time. He's very sorry, and he confessed it on his own. I've asked him what I can do to help prevent it from happening again, and he really doesn't know. Really, I guess I'm just looking for any advice I can get... because it won't be as easy to get over it if it happens again.

Thanks in advance!
The Newly Wed

This may not be the popular answer but it's what my H did when I found out he had porn on his computer. He got rid of the computers. All five of them! The only one left is my laptop. Now in your situation maybe just cancelling your online service so he can't download anything? Even for just a period of 3 to 6 months. Do something b/c my H did this off and on for 3 years before he got real help. It also led to other things. He began chatting w/women online at some game site (pogo.com?). But he said it started w/the online porn he could download b/c it was free and easy to access.

So get rid of the internet connection would be my suggestion. Also some individual counseling wouldn't be bad for your H so he can get to the real root as to why he turns to porn and keep him from it in the future.

Best wishes to you!!