Hello, and thanks for the reply. I have been married 22 years to what I thought was the perfect husband and marriage. It IS my second marriage. I was married very young and had 2 children from my first marriage. The children were young when we married, and love, and consider him their Dad. He has always been a good Father (although was working much of the time) and a good husband. He was loving, considerate and really everything I wanted. Money has always been tight. In the spring of 2002, I asked him if taxes were done, I was not happy (the ONE thing that I did get angry at him for-fileing extensions on taxes). He Blew up! He never in all that time had gotten truely angry at me during our marriage (although I am sure I gave him reasons at times). He said I was always accusing him of other women. Lie. I rarely questioned him about anything, I trusted him so much. Well, this started suspicion, his reponse. I started checking up on him. My daughter said that we should have lots more money than I thought. I put spyware on his computer- and lo and behold-it was porn, porn, porn. I was devastated. I never saw him with porn during 20 years! He never talked that way-just nothing. It started then, me questioning ect. I felt there was more, but nothing to base it on. I think God was involved. He denied anything else. 10 months later (I felt I was going to die, from not eating or sleeping) he confessed to buying porn a limited amount of times, going to massage parlors for hand jobs and blow jobs, going to strip clubs. Yikes! Not the man I thought I knew. Since then, there have been minor disclosures- (except for the fact that he did have intercourse with one massage girl- says he never wanted it-she got on HIm) I did have him take a polygraph in Dec. last year- he flunked on the "are you lying about hiding assets or debits from your wife" question. I still don't trust him much. I have all his work receipts, and there are numerous calls that he can not explain, on his cell phone.
