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We have our first MC session tomorrow. My question is how we make that session useful.
Should we talk in advance about issues that we want to discuss with the counselor? Or we simply let the counselor lead the session where she believes it ought to go.
I believe that we have a pretty good handle on what the issues are. Obviously, however, the fact that we are seeins a counselor suggests that we haven't gotten a good handle on how to solve then - and both my wife and I suspect that there may be issues we aren't aware of.
That seems to me to be a good reason to leave in in the hands of the counselor. Presumably, she's trained to spot issues that we may miss, being so close to the situation.
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Andrew,
I saw our MC first, alone. I'm the WW. I explained what was going on (I was SEVERELY depressed at that point). Then we had our first session together. The counselor asked the questions and made us discuss things. I don't think that you have to have anything pre-planned. Good luck!
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Andrew:
There are lots of lame counselors out there. Al they do is listen and offer little advice. In fact, we don't go to MC. My wife and I post here and I can run by her tough questions and others jump in and we get a pretty good discussion going. My wife has grown quite a bit and has left the fog because of the interaction on this site. I would recommend that you ask your wife to post.
On some occasions I have said hurtful things to my wife, but I guess we need to get these things out of the system.
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I second what was said earlier. Our first MC was a total fruit loop!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
Hopefully you've done your homework in your selection, but if not - I may use some of the first session in asking some core and fundamental questions about their MC philosophy.
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