Been married for 7 yrs. bought a home and now found out he been sleeping with people on the internet for almost 7 yrs. more people than i can bear to think about but i found his sex calander that he wrote them down in case he picked up somthing he new where it was. And i found pictures he took in our home while i was at work with some of them. He tells me he loves me everyday we been together and we have great times together. do not get it says he sorry it it was not worth losing me. but it hurts so bad.And in our bedroom it is so hard. please help. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Shaun,

I'm so sorry to read about your situation. My WS is a "serial cheater", too. He is currently involved in his 3rd A -that I know of. I don't think he realises I know what is going on. I just found pix, emails, etc. this weekend confirming his activities. I am seeking legal advice since he has shown no effort to restore our marriage. He never acted remorseful, wouldn't continue counseling, wouldn't even say he wanted to start over and work at marriage. He is sick and I'm through with him. It hurts terribly. We've been married almost 21 years and this had been a pattern our entire marriage although I was ignorant until just a couple of years ago. Not anymore! I vacilate between feeling empowered that I am finally "in the know" this time and feeling very depressed and sad at the turn my life is taking. We have two kids that will be heart-broken (13-DD and 8 DS).

Take heart. You are not alone. This is a great place to find encouragement.