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Just a quick poll request from someone who will be delivering his own Plan B letter shortly:<P>How did you deliver your Plan B letter? In person? Via E-mail? With flowers?<P>I envisioned having mine delivered with a bouquet made up of the same flowers my wife had in her wedding one.
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Mine was by e-mail. I fgured that flowers or nything affectionate wuld simply diminisg what I was trying to say. <P>R
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If your spouse won't throw the flowers back at you or crush them with their heels... like my W did on numerous occasions...<P><B>Yes</B>...<BR>...flowers are good...<P>The Plan B letter <B>is a LOVE LETTER</B>!<P>BTW: I had to send mine via e-mail (pointing to a web page... that I can track her hits on)<P>I know it's not romantic...<BR>...but the judge, in my case (divorce), ordered me to stop... flowers... love notes in my e-mails... etc. (they were percieved as <I>harassment</I> by my wife... ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/frown.gif) )<P> ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Jim
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Hand-delivered, as I was leaving. I really am not sure about the flower's---it sends a mixed message. And heaven forbid, I disagree with Jim about the premise of the Plan B letter being a love letter (at least in the traditional sense). <P>It's more of a "protection letter". You're entering a self-preservation mode in Plan B. The "love" part of it is that you MUST STATE that you're doing this for the marriage (which you will be true to), as opposed to the "I'm moving on..." message that might normally be associated with the situation. But I really don't think flowers or any other fanfare is appropriate---it's a pretty serious message.
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<B>K</B>...<P>A "tough love" love letter...<BR>...ala "agape" verus "eros".<P>Jim
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