3.5 months since d Day. Executed plan B and she came back crying and want to work on it. She wants us to work on it together. because the councelor we were using before didn't help. <P>Where do I start? I have the book "your love and marriage" by Harley. I want her to read it. I disscusses plan A and B. And what to do if your WS has a relapse and such. If she reads all of my insight. She will see through what I am doing if we have problems again. I feel like I am giving up my battle plan books. However, I can't teach her all of this because she needs to read it on her own. What should I do. I don't have "His Needs Her needs" would that be a better read for her to begin with or "Men are from Mars..." We are going to design a plan and follow it and when we run into problems we are going to consult Dr. Harley. What do you think. Can we do it with out a local counclor? Do you have any suggestions on a better game plan or any pointers that will help us? Thank you for your input. You guys have helped me survive during this awful time in my life. <P>I thank you so much for your support.

His Needs Her Needs is a great place to start. The other book that would help is "Surviving the Affair" It it also by Harley and I think I have the title slightly wrong.<P>I don't know if an affair was going on, but if so those two books should help both of you a lot.<P>God Bless,<P>JL