NSR,<P> Well, she now knows about the court hearing about the kids. The strange thing is that she has not called me about it yet. I would have thought that she would have called me by now. Her lawyer hasn't even called my lawyer. What does that mean? I called a friend of mine that lives next door to her parents and they said that my wife and the OM took my stepdaughter out tonight. It seems like she has cut her children that we had together out of her life like she did me. I just can't see my wife doing this. This court date is only a pleminary hearing. It is only to be a structured seperation. I am wondering if I should just push the divorce or if I should let her do that. I don't want the divorce, but what good is it to the children to have a father married to a mother who doesn't care about them or me.