I too must confess a major LB this am. I understand the need to feel like you have discussed this with someone else. As soon as I left the house this am my 1st thought was "I want to get on MB site and see what others are saying,....should I post my LB?". And then I found your post. So I decided to admit that I made a major screw up this am. <P>I checked the caller ID this am and found that a payphone #, from the town the OW lives in, called yesterday while my H was home and I wasn't. So he heard me shutting doors and walking heavily in the house and ask what was wrong. I told him there was something on the ID he should check.<P>Of course he swears he didn't talk to her. That he hasn't spoken to her in the 2 weeks that he told her (& me) that it was over between them. Of course he was angry that I would continue to accuse him of talking with her. That we "don't know who that was calling and just becaue the number was there doesn't mean he talked with her. I can't control the numbers that call here."<P>I know in my head that it was her that called and though I hope he really didn't answer the call or talk with her, I know in my head that he did. I am almost to the point of saying, so what, keep talking with her...I'll just continue to live the family life that I want and you can have both worlds. But I know that I really couldn't stand that...I can't live that way.<P>I told him I was trying my best to trust him and it is not an easy task. He told me that he understood that I was trying, but just stop accusing him. He said "it is over, I haven't talked with her and I really don't want to keep talking about this. I don't want to talk about this all the time, I really don't want to talk about this issue anymore".<P>So I try to think of the Venus vs. Mars issues and think to myself -- I should try to trust him if I want my marriage to survive, and I get tired of talking about this too. He did say that it is over and maybe that is his way of saying don't worry. But I really want to hear those words from him. "Don't worry, this is really over, I'm not going to talk with her." So I guess, for now, I will continue to wait out - what I hope is a withdrawal period - and hope that he will stand by his word now and have no contact with the OW and I will try to keep my word that I gave this this am that I won't bring this up again. And just wait and see what the weekend and next week brings in this continuing story of my crazy life.<P>Best of luck to you this weekend too that your WS will move past your LBing and you can have a weekend of fulfilling each other's EN !!!!
