... I need to sleep on things before I bring things up with my W. From here on out ... let's see if I can bring myself up a notch and avoid talking about the A as scarlet pumpernickle says ... just keep PlanAing my heart out till I can't take it anymore and come here to vent and I keep forgetting to pray ... he he ... too many habits to form ... one by one ... little by little.<P>I just wanted to confess my LB.<P>Talk to you folks soon.<P>B2O

I too must confess a major LB this am. I understand the need to feel like you have discussed this with someone else. As soon as I left the house this am my 1st thought was "I want to get on MB site and see what others are saying,....should I post my LB?". And then I found your post. So I decided to admit that I made a major screw up this am. <P>I checked the caller ID this am and found that a payphone #, from the town the OW lives in, called yesterday while my H was home and I wasn't. So he heard me shutting doors and walking heavily in the house and ask what was wrong. I told him there was something on the ID he should check.<P>Of course he swears he didn't talk to her. That he hasn't spoken to her in the 2 weeks that he told her (& me) that it was over between them. Of course he was angry that I would continue to accuse him of talking with her. That we "don't know who that was calling and just becaue the number was there doesn't mean he talked with her. I can't control the numbers that call here."<P>I know in my head that it was her that called and though I hope he really didn't answer the call or talk with her, I know in my head that he did. I am almost to the point of saying, so what, keep talking with her...I'll just continue to live the family life that I want and you can have both worlds. But I know that I really couldn't stand that...I can't live that way.<P>I told him I was trying my best to trust him and it is not an easy task. He told me that he understood that I was trying, but just stop accusing him. He said "it is over, I haven't talked with her and I really don't want to keep talking about this. I don't want to talk about this all the time, I really don't want to talk about this issue anymore".<P>So I try to think of the Venus vs. Mars issues and think to myself -- I should try to trust him if I want my marriage to survive, and I get tired of talking about this too. He did say that it is over and maybe that is his way of saying don't worry. But I really want to hear those words from him. "Don't worry, this is really over, I'm not going to talk with her." So I guess, for now, I will continue to wait out - what I hope is a withdrawal period - and hope that he will stand by his word now and have no contact with the OW and I will try to keep my word that I gave this this am that I won't bring this up again. And just wait and see what the weekend and next week brings in this continuing story of my crazy life.<P>Best of luck to you this weekend too that your WS will move past your LBing and you can have a weekend of fulfilling each other's EN !!!!

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Heartbreak25130:<BR><B>I too must confess a major LB this am. I understand the need to feel like you have discussed this with someone else. As soon as I left the house this am my 1st thought was "I want to get on MB site and see what others are saying,....should I post my LB?". And then I found your post. So I decided to admit that I made a major screw up this am. </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Thanks for joining the party .. =)<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Heartbreak25130:<BR><B>He said "it is over, I haven't talked with her and I really don't want to keep talking about this. I don't want to talk about this all the time, I really don't want to talk about this issue anymore".<P>So I try to think of the Venus vs. Mars issues and think to myself -- I should try to trust him if I want my marriage to survive, and I get tired of talking about this too. He did say that it is over and maybe that is his way of saying don't worry. But I really want to hear those words from him. "Don't worry, this is really over, I'm not going to talk with her." So I guess, for now, I will continue to wait out - what I hope is a withdrawal period - and hope that he will stand by his word now and have no contact with the OW and I will try to keep my word that I gave this this am that I won't bring this up again. And just wait and see what the weekend and next week brings in this continuing story of my crazy life.<BR></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I get confused when WS tells me this too ... is WS telling us how WS wants us to be ... forget about the mistake and lets try to continue to live? Or is this an excuse or a red herring? Should we be optmistic or pessimistic? Should we be cautious or not? I guess like you said Trust ... till proven otherwise?<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Heartbreak25130:<BR><B><BR>Best of luck to you this weekend too that your WS will move past your LBing and you can have a weekend of fulfilling each other's EN !!!!</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Thanks ... you too.