Radium, whomever you are, you obviously have no belief in the MB principles and are finding great pleasure in giving advice that is not only against the whole intention of this website and the materials the Harley's use, but is hurtful and inappropriate.<p>Your comments regarding my situation--<p>"She was a married woman who had a sacred obligations to abide by the marital vows she took and had no right to take a lover with whom she had a relationship for past 2 years. When she moved out her priority was not you but her lover. She was manipulative to make a 3 month separation agreement with you in case it didn't work out with the OM. You were her backup. You may have got her back but the question is what did you get back."<p>First of all, when I stood in front of God, my wife, family and friends, I took a vow to love my wife "til death do we part" and "In sickness, in health, for better for worse". The addiction of an affair certainly qualifies the aforementioned.<p>If I or anyone else that are positive active participants of this website believed any differently, we would have been long gone. In fact, the Harley's principles wouldn't even be relevant. We would just leave our WS's, file for D and start over. Call it "McMarriage". Thank you, drive through, please. . .<p>While everyone is urged to give input, so far your input that I have read has been nothing but slams and a plethora of salt-pouring on wounds. Please stop. I could give a shi* about what you think about my situation. Unfortunately, there are others who aren't as resilient yet and are mourning very heavily right now.<p>Start your own website. Kick dogs. Take your co-workers' lunch money.<p>If you want to help, use the principles. If not, move on, please.<p>God Bless<p>Guido

guido,
Good job man. I am trying to post Z question to radium. However I feel that the party involve should answer them back. I asked rev to take the challenge at one point. It helps other lurker and newbie.<p>[ January 14, 2002: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>

guido...<p>I have emailed moderators for their opinions re radium posts...<p>Cali

gb, redhat, Cali, others,<p> It is obvious this person has no intention of coming forward....sigh! Which is a shame really, because there are some, myself included, who think the advice is sound albeit a little harsh. <p> Yes, I know the person is not following MB advice and practices. But as you are well aware, there are several others on the boards that espouse to leaving the marriage, as was pointed out before.<p> I suggest again, nobody is forced to read radiums posts, no more than they are forced to read snls, lexxys, and others who don't share the beliefs of the website, at least not totally.<p> Ok flame away.....lol.<p> jd

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>I suggest again, nobody is forced to read radiums posts, no more than they are forced to read snls, lexxys, and others who don't share the beliefs of the website, at least not totally.<p>Ok flame away.....lol. <hr></blockquote><p>I quite agree with you JDMac1... except that radium IS NOT posting to veterans... he is mainly posting to newbies... people with fewer than 50-60 posts...<p>THAT's what bothers me the most... not what he is saying... I don't want newbies to think that his/her advice is standard MB.<p>Cali