D-Day was 6 months ago. I have been in serious Plan "A" since then. WS has seen and acknowledged the changes in me. My problem is she is saying now that she doesn't know what to do. She loves us both, can't imagine living without either one of us. She talks to him constantly on the phone. <p>She admits that I could provide her with what he does (conversation), but she won't give me the chance. She says that she is in-love with him, but also loves me and the security i provide. We have 3 children. Things really seemed to be going good for us until 2 weeks ago, I had gotten her to commit to not calling him..(initiating) the calls. Then i discovered that she was lying again about it. She was calling him 4-8 times a day. <p>It's been hell since then. She show no affection. Barely talks. Is so moody that it's hard to live there. She has quit calling me at work since then. <p>How do you know when it's time for Plan "B". I am sick of this life. I've been the doormat for 6 months and deserve better than this. I want to kick her out, but am afraid that that will make her choice for her..i want HER to choose who/what she wants. <p>HELP ME.....what do i do ??? <p> [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]