<BR>I don't know, it might just be me hoping, but I do think something positive is happening here.<P>H came by for visitation. He came in and visited for a few minutes. He went to get D coat and said " Come on babe, let's go get some French Fries". She kinda ran away, and he said, "Don't worry, Mommy is coming too, right mommy?" So, how could I say no?<P>Went walked to the car and I said that I thought I was overdressed to go to Burger King. H said, "Don't worry about it, you look great!!!"<P>We went to dinner. Had a nice visit. We talked about his job, about his family Christmas (he thanked me for the gifts I gave his family-said they really appreciated them), what he was doing for New Year's Eve (He is going to a party- probably w/ OW #2- UGH). He wanted to know what I was doing. I told him I wasn't sure yet. He asked if I had a date and a party to go to. I told him that I was invited to a party, but wasn't sure if I was going yet.<P>He told me he was going to Fl next week, for business (OW#1 will be there- Double UGH!). I did so well. No lovebusting, no questions about OW's, no judgements; I was pretty perfect.<P>We got home and he walked us to the door. I thanked him for dinner. He said it was no probles; that D enjoys it when we are together!! I told him to be safe on NYE and he said he was taking a cab- so he would be ok. I told him to stay out of trouble and to have a good time.<P>He said he would see us on Saturday; maybe we could go to the zoo or something. I said, ok, we'll see.<P>I don't know if this is the beginning or reconciliation, but it certainly is something positive. I'm still holding on to hope. I am getting better at this Plan A stuff.<P>God Bless,<P>Cheryl

Cheryl,<BR> That sounds wonderful. There is a lot of potential there. Don't be afraid to grasp on to it! It's going to take time as you already know. You're doing great. Stay ecouraged.<P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."<P>

ceecee,<P>GREAT job...I hope you can get together on Saturday. Those friendly times are the basis for something more once again.<P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

jamie-lee, <P>I am trying to be encouraged and hold on to this. I just don't want to get my hopes up. I am fighting the divorce clock, so I hope something breaks soon. I'm glad you think this is good news.<P>RMA-<P>I did do good, didn't I?? It is really starting to feel right being w/ him again. I am trying to take it as it comes and not get to excited about anything.<BR>We'll see what happens on Saturday. I need to make some of those love deposits before he sees OW in Florida (Sounds like your H and mine like that state!!! I don't think I will ever be able to visit there again!)<P>Thanks for the support and encouragement. I am going to Plan A this man until I have no breathe left!! How's that for patience <P>Cheryl

I admire your patience and courage. Keep it up. Someone recommended another great website to me called divorceasfriends.com It has a lot of the same principles as this site in that the main goal is reconciliation. Check it out. Maybe you can get a few more pointers.<P>Good luck!<P>

ceecee,<P>What is it about FL and OW???? Maybe with so many retirees, there is a lack of available men...but of course, OUR H's aren't available either! <P>I know what you mean about that state. Prior to this we had been actively looking to buy a condo in FL. NOW???? "Hell no, I won't go" is my new motto concerning that one! <sigh><P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Cheryl, Cheryl CHERYL!!!!!!!!<P>good good good good good good good good<P>YOU WERE WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!<P>That to me, is a perfect plan A. WOW!<P>NOW KEEP IT UP!!! IT IS WORKING~<P>He will soon be dreaming of you again <P>Bless that little Emily.... She works right into your plan A, now doesn't she!!!<P>God's helping you and I'm thankful. Your behavior WILL change his behavior!!! GOOD!

AnnR-<P>Thanks for the admiration. Don't know if I really deserve it, it is coming from God. <BR>Thanks for the link. I'll check it out.!!<P>RMA-<P>Yea, Florida. I used to think it was a great state. Not anymore. <BR>Are you feeling any better? Are you going to get some meds? <BR>I'm sending you happy thoughts and lots of prayers. Still have that candle burning.<P>TnT-<P>Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU. Gosh, I am so glad you think I did well. That really means a lot to me.<BR>It is still all undetermined. God is working His magic in me; no doubt about it. <BR>I think I am finally getting the hang of this. Still need your prayers.<BR>You are so right about Em. She is working that Plan A right along w/ me.<BR>Hope all is well w. you. I think about you all the time.<P>God Bless,<P>Cheryl

You gave me chills. Sounds like this could be some start. Wishing you all the best<BR>Nancy

Ceecee, Spinds like we are in this together. We will just have to help each other along. you did real good.<P>{{{HUGS}}}}<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

ceecee, <P>good job!!!<P>a little advice on dealing with progress, to help you avoid the crash and burn I did after he bought my pearl ring. <P>Try to keep in mind that Plan A is a set of principles that generally make sense in restoring love--not a magic spell that is guaranteed to bring the desired result from a spouse.<P>as I posted earlier, I think a harmful by-product of being raised on Walt Disney movies (remember Sunday nights and "the Wonderful World of Disney? maybe you are too young--) is, I think, that alot of us Disney-fed girls grew up thinking that magic spells and romance would save us from unhappiness and Prince Charming would show up if we were just virtuous enough...a painfully UNTRUE paradigm, but it was easy to buy into...<P>my dear h. pointed out to me when he was newly back home "The problem, my dear wife, is that you thought you had waited long enough and dated enough and been smart enough to marry AN EXTRAORDINARY MAN, I sit here before you a broken and ordinary man who made lots of bad decisions. You need to decide if you can live with this ordinary man, 'cause Prince Charming is not a real person!"<P>I guess what I am saying is, Enjoy the process and the progress, but remember that this is your h. you are dealing with, and he won't be magically transformed into someone else because of Plan A. Plan A just restores the possibility of a future with him.<P>Please see my post to Medic on what happens mentally to the betrayed when hope returns...a very wise psychologist friend helped me know what I feel is normal.<P>blessings and prayers<P>lizzipearl<P>------------------<BR><BR>"I have found the Pearl of Great Price"<BR>

That is WONDERFUL!! I hope your visit at<BR>Christmas will end up being more than a <BR>friendship.. Congratulations!! <P>

Sounds like he might be coming around. I hope and pray it continues. Great job on the way you reacted, I know it's hard. Little tiny baby steps when we would most prefer GREAT BIG GIANT STEPS.... oh well, at least it's going in a positive direction...

Neato Torpedo!!!<P><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Nobody knows what you want except you, and nobody will be as sorry as you if you don't get it. ~Barry Manilow

Mental- <BR>Wow, I gave you the chills?? That must be a good sign! Thanks for the good wishes.<P>SDS-<P>Yep, we are in this together. We need all the support and encouragment we can get. I'm here for you.<P>POGP-<P>Wow, thanks for that post. I don't think I have this imagine anymore about Prince Charming. I know that my H is just who he is; and I love him just the way he is. That's why I married him. .<BR>Thanks for your prayers. I'll check out your post to Medic, too.<P>a1barbie-<P>Things are going well. Christmas went well; last night went well. I just have to keep remembering that I have a lot of work left to do, and that he hasn't yet made any moves to come home.<BR>I hope it ends up more than a friendship, too.<P>mkn-<P>Hi Mike. I guess time will tell. Like I said, things are going better. Thanks for your hope and prayers, I need them.<P>nb-<P>you made me LOL!!! Thank you!!!!!!!<BR>Are you getting your Plan A ?'s answered?<P>God Bless you all, my dear friends. Thank you for all your support and helping me keep going!<P>Cheryl