Is it possible to have an in-house plan b? Im just not sure. <p>Please help

Don't know, but a good question...<p>Almost did that a week ago.. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

About an in-house Plan B ....I'm not sure if it's possible but I'm giving it a try starting tomorrow when he comes back from OW. I know it will take a lot of patience and time....I just hope I'm strong enough. I plan to be otherwise occupied when he's looking for my companionship...it will be a little tough this weekend...many family obligations. But I will try to stay brief and business-like...talking about the kids and bills and work. I hoping I will not supply him with any EN inadvertently. His most important EN he has with OW and won't let me near him physically. God this is so hard. Somedays I wonder if it's worth the effort.
Wintergal

Wintergal-<p>I feel the pain. I often tell myself the same thing. I guess I feel that if I try this I will drive her further to om. I also dont want to leave my kids. <p>This is hard. so damm hard.

I am trying to live an 'in-house' Plan B at the moment. It is very difficult. W continues contact with OM1 and OM2 and she continues to work with OM3 with whom she 'explored' a possible A. She only wants me to meet needs for FC and DS. I don't think an 'in-house' Plan B will be very effective if a WS is still secretly seeing OP. It is also very difficult to not LB and to emotionally cut yourself off from your spouse while living under the same roof. I don't have any other options right now. I can't force her out and I can't leave because I feel I need to be there for my children. Somehow, boundaries are going to have to be set in order to reduce the tension. My W is interpreting my lack of willingness to carry on long conversations as a lack of civility and disrespect. I told her last night that I need cut myself off from her now so that I don't completely lose all the love I have for her. She said it would be all right with her if I left. I said it is not going to happen this way.<p>This is a very difficult way to go. I am following the advice of a counselor (Harley). Before you take this step, find out what your rights and options are under the law. Find out what her options are. You might need to modify your plan based on what you learn. I hope you succeed in repairing your marriage.<p>HoFS

I think this would be incredibly hard (in-house plan B.) So I would get counseling first for help in planning and following through. Plan B is not effective if it waffles.

Unless you could just go home only in the middle of the night when everyone is asleep and leave before dawn or make an arrangement w/ WS so that there is no contact ... the bottom line is it is not possible plan B in house. Plan B is "trial separation". It is hard for the kids but if she is a good mother you might have to move out to do plan B.<p>Remember plan B is for you to protect your feeling not to punish or to manipulate the situation so that WS works on M.<p>-RH-