Just got off the phone and finally, after exactly 6 months today, my H is coming home tonight!!!!!!!<p>Today will be the longest day ever at work!<p>I feel I am finally at the light at the end of the tunnel.<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img]

I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!!!! Everyday I wake up and pray that maybe today I'll get that same phone call. <p>You have a long road ahead, but it will be worth every second! I'm very happy for you [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Congrats. I hope for the same. My WH is not out of the house but he is emotionally. I miss him. I wish you the best!

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CONGRATULATIONS,<p>I applaud anyone who does not just give up on a marriage. Marriage is a holy union and should be treated as such. continue working hard to keep your marriage. Remember to pray every day [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

I just saw this thread ~ Congratulations! It won't be easy, but I think you know that. Try to breathe and focus on being true to yourself.<p>How are you doing, BTW? It's been a few days now.<p>God bless you!<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

I've been hesitant to post anything, because I don't want to be slammed any. This is hard enough as it is and when someone bursts your bubble when your trying to keep your head above the water makes it harder. Some people on here need to learn the art of constructive critisim.<p>So, here goes....he came home Wednesday night, it was wonderful. We weren't out of each others arms for a minute. The full truth of things came out. Him and the OW had been back together, had moved in with each other about 3 weeks ago. He had went to their place early Wednesday when no body was there, packed his stuff, left a note and came to me. He told me he was never going to make contact with her again, that he wanted us to work on us, etc., etc., etc. Basically, he said all the right things with out me telling him to say them. I think he got a reality check on the OW by living with her, he stated that he realized I wasn't such a bad person and that he was just saying all those things to try to justify what he was doing, and that I have been the only one to really be by his side in all of this.<p>Well, Thursday night, he moved back to his parents house for a few days. He said he wanted to get his stuff together financially and emotionally before starting back with us. He doesn't want to bring into our house the financial problems he created in the past 6 months, and wanted to come into our house with out an ounce of the OW in his heart. He wanted to start again with a clean slate and wants to be fair to me, and feels he can't be everything he needs to be with me with the money issues and having just broke up with the OW. He found out by the roommate they were living with that the OW within 10 minutes of reading his note had her stuff packed and was going back to her H.<p>So, basically he is getting his act together at his parents house. He just took some of his clothes and essentials and left everything else here. There's alot more that he said, all the I love you's, I want to be with you, but it would take me hours to write everything that was said. If this post sounds down, it's only because I don't feel that well this morning. He put my wedding set back on my hand, and he put his wedding band back on too. I still believe everything is going to work out.

This all seems to be going in the right direction. The fog seems to be lifting. He may have setbacks, but do not be discourraged. Plan A like crazy. Best of luck and happiness. It sounds like he cares underneath it all, and it sounds like he wants to make sure you have not left. He has claimed you by putting the rings on I believe. Sounds like he wants to ensure no one else will come around while he is figuring this all out. It killed my husband when a co worker told him I'd be married again within 2 years because I was a great catch. The jealosy knocked some sense into him. Congratulations! Again, even if he slides, you are going in the right direction.

TBO -
I am very happy for you. Every BS knows the pain that you've been going through, and it's so nice to hear something positive once in a while. When I read your posts, I get a sense of hope and encouragement. <p>I don't think that others are trying to "burst your bubble", but rather trying to help you pull back on the reins just a bit. It's very easy to get ahead of yourself when things finally start going the way you've been working towards for so long and so hard. They are just saying "Be Careful". [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I think we're all waiting anxiously for your next post. I wish you the best of luck, and I'll be praying for you. Speaking of praying, it's about time for church to start... gotta run

Congratulations - and good luck