Hi. I've been lurking lately and have been wondering about the "showing the changes" part of Plan A (specifically for my situation.) I'm curious what everyone/anyone thinks but especially redhat because of the madman posting everywhere with some great advice so I'm going to be greedy and ask for some too.
My WW has said she's seen some changes (my being more thoughtful, spending more time with her family) but she says they are fake. I'm hoping that over time she will see that the changes are real, so I will keep up with Plan A.
The more important changes I want to show her have to do with me giving her attention/affection more often/daily when she lived with me. I can't show her those changes because
a) she has her own apartment and we rarely see each other and
b) she won't let me anyway.
My question: Is there anything else I can do?
I'm thinking no (or I'd be doing it) but just wanted to see what everyone else thinks.
My other question: Should I pursue her a bit so she can see the changes more often?
Keep in mind that I rarely see/speak with her (contact is about 1-2 weeks). However, the last few times we saw each other/communicated was about 3 times in one week. I think that was too much for her (or OM?) and as a result she started talking about divorce and may have filed.
I'm thinking that I should not pursue her because that will just push her towards a divorce. Instead I'm thinking I should just be patient and wait for A to die a natural death (hopefully before a divorce.)
FYI, Here is a link to my (story) more recent postings:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=30;t=001238;p=9